Missing Network connection, says 'a program' is trying to connect or disconnect - can

[legierke]

Hello all.
I am struggling with a internet issue for two weeks now....cuz i'm lazy and rattled.
I use a music file sharing program that will remain nameless (SS).
I have used the new version that has to be DL'd. It has worked with no issues for at least a month.
Last week I am downloading some songs and all of a sudden all the people on my user list go 'offlilne' and I can't reconnect the program.
When I go to my Network Connections icon on my desktop, right click to disconnect it says i can't because 'there is another program trying to connect or disconnect.' When I go to my network connections folder in Control Panel there is no connection, icon or anything. I have runa virus check (Norton Corporate) and nothing, virus defs are up to date.
HOW do I find out what is trying to connect, how do I get back online, how do I do anything?????