can a 19 year old date a 36 year old

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by airwolf9090, Dec 20, 2004.

  1. airwolf9090

    airwolf9090 Corporal

    like it says can a 19 year old man date a 36 year old woman is it legal i tryed to find a anwser on many search engines but all i got was bs so could someone on here tell me i live in GA if thats any help ;)
     
  2. BLAJY

    BLAJY Corporal

    Is that someone you? No offense, but whatdaya nuts? ;) Why would you pass by a teenager or someone at least in their early twenties? Unless of course you are looking for a mother. Sorry that's just how I feel. Let the bashing begin!
     
  3. airwolf9090

    airwolf9090 Corporal

    to me age does not matter its whats inside that counts so you may call me what you want
     
  4. ACE 256

    ACE 256 MajorGeeks Forum Administrator - Overclocking Expe

    Takes guts to say that.... its vary true "The strongest man in the world is he who stands alone." --Henrik Ibsen .....
     
  5. Turcoloco

    Turcoloco MajorGeek

    it sounds like you got infected with MeSoHorni32.vbs virus, follow the stickies in the.... just kidding.
    Dude, it is not illegal as long as she is not blood-related to you either, I say live it up!
    It is definitely not normal but then again not everyone was meant to live a so-called normal life!
    As long as you and she is happy who cares what others think....

    PS. I am not saying that because I used to service a 34 yo hottie when I was like 20yo myself either. ;)
    Some like it raw, some like it ripe.
     
  6. bigbazza

    bigbazza R.I.P. 14/12/2011 - Good Onya Geek

    As long as you both are single, there should be no problem, except for other peoples prejudices. Try it for a while. I think one of you will end it eventually, but the experience gained by you will be worth it. Bazza

    ===

     
  7. DavidGP

    DavidGP MajorGeeks Forum Administrator - Grand Pooh-Bah Staff Member

    Whats the legal age of consent where you are in the US.... 18???

    if so then why not date some-one thats older than you, just look at Hugh Hefner and the ages of the women he dates, they have a bigger age gap than you two!!

    I know some people have this age gap thing, but hey if you two are happy thats all that matters, sadly the downside can be to alienate some friends and family on both sides due to their opinions on what right or wrong.

    Hope all works out well for you
     
  8. airwolf9090

    airwolf9090 Corporal


    hey thanks for saying that ACE 256 atless some people are not like that guy
    and Turcoloco thanks for them words and no she is not blood-related lmao
    and thanks to all others that anwser my post but not blajy :p
     
    Last edited: Dec 20, 2004
  9. Matacumbie

    Matacumbie Rocky Top

    Why would anybody want to date somebody not related to them? ;)

    Seriously, there is nothing really wrong with it. Be careful, don't let her take advantage of your inexperience in life and finances.

    Not a great way or attitude to go into a relationship of anykind but just try and be level-headed about the whole thing.

    Steve
     
  10. Wenchie

    Wenchie I R teh brat

    I have to tell you that from personal experience 36year old women are only interrested in 19 year old men because both of them are at their sexual peaks in life. A 36 year old woman has nothing in common with a 19year old man, she probably has kids almost his age, and if she does has alot in common, shes probably a sick person.

    but, thats just my experience. If I be wrong, best of luck to you both.
     
  11. airwolf9090

    airwolf9090 Corporal

    thanks for your words "red" you gave me something to think about but she is what i have been looking for and i am what she has been looking for we just so happen to meet because of a problem with a site and we got to talken and it just grow from there you can call it what ever you want but like i said befor its whats inside that counts
     
  12. MrPewty

    MrPewty MajorGeek


    Why would anyone want to date a teenager?
     
  13. MellowMan

    MellowMan First Sergeant

    I'm 34, and frankly 19 year olds get on my nerves.
     
  14. Matacumbie

    Matacumbie Rocky Top

    Yup, I dated a younger girl for awhile and it was kind of annoying. I also noticed that my truck always smelled like bubble gum.

    Steve
     
  15. BLAJY

    BLAJY Corporal

    >Airwolf, didn't intend to hurt your feelings, but sometimes getting an objective opionion(In this case,from someone who is close to your soon to be dates age) may prove useful. See I stand my ground on this one. There are exceptions to every rule, but I searched my soul on this one and there is no exception on this one.

    >I can see how you may be attracted to this women, and sure things may have clicked. The problem I have, is with the 36 yr old. She should never have led you on or taken it to this level(Unless of course you haven't even discussed the possibility with her). I see you as an innocent naive(not in a bad way)19yr. old being taken advantage of by someone almost 20yrs their senior. My guess is purely sex. To me, my friend, is totally inexcusable. Ethically she is in her right, morally,I couldn't respect someone who would take advantage of someone like that.

    >Mr.Pewty quote"Why would anyone want to date a teenager?" Because he is a teenager himself. :p
     
  16. Major Attitude

    Major Attitude Co-Owner MajorGeeks.Com Staff Member

    I have to agree, odds are horribly stacked against you regardles. Lets say at 25 you want to have kids, a normal age to consider that. She will be 41. Maybe the bug does not hit until 30. She will be 46. At age 50, she will be on social security.

    Theres really only one thing to consider here. At your age spread, the only thing you both have going at the same time is your sexual peak. Nothing else will EVER come into line. Do I need to explain your position any better then that? If I do, I suggest going for 16 year olds.

    Good luck.
     
  17. solaris89

    solaris89 First Sergeant

  18. Sgt. Tibbs

    Sgt. Tibbs Ultra Geek

    Not unless it's disability. Social Security doesn't kick in until age 60 in the US, and that's only partial. Full benefits aren't until retirement (whatever age that is). My mom is 68, and collecting partial SS. :)

    As for the rest...the original question asked if it was legal. It is. Anything else is up to the two of you to decide, all anyone else can do is offer their own opinions, which unless they've actually been in a dating situation that's similar, can only reflect their personal prejudices either for or against it.

    Me, I dated a guy who was 39 when I was 18. It lasted until I was 25, then I broke it off. It worked for a while...had he not been an alcoholic who refused to admit his problem, it might still be working. My dad is 71, my stepmom is 48. Seems to work for them, as they celebrated their 22nd anniversary this summer. Just depends on the people involved.
     
  19. MrPewty

    MrPewty MajorGeek

     
  20. MikeH

    MikeH Specialist

    I went with a 33-year old when I was 18; it was cool until she dumped me. Just be prepared for the snide comments you'll both get. Point to ponder- by the time I got to be 36, even though the 19-year-olds looked good, I knew I had nothing in common with them- and the above-mentioned lady had some "issues".
     
  21. SilverD

    SilverD Private E-2

    If the situation were reversed would you say go for it buddy!!!! ???

    It seems that many times when an older man is going for a younger woman everybody says go for it but when it is the reverse many ask why. I have to ask, why do you ask why? And like you already stated both are in their sexual prime, so what a fitting combination. ;)
     
  22. evilevets

    evilevets Sergeant Major

    I suppose it all depends on what you want. At 19, you should be enjoying life and living every day to the fullest. These are your best years, believe me. It's all downhill after this. If it's a fling sort of thing, go for it! It'll be a learning experience. Just don't let this woman tie you down. At your age, you should be dating and, I may catch some flak for this but, banging as many girls as you can. Stick to chicks closer to your age. You may be impressed by her since she's older and more mature and wiser than most girls your age, but dude, at 36, she's looking for a husband. Believe me. When women hit mid thirties and haven't yet settled down, thats's all they are looking for...a husband. Not saying her intentions are bad or decieptfull, but just make sure you are both clear about what it is each of you wants.

    If it was me, I would perhaps date her a few times, and by date I mean bang, but I would not get too serious. Then again, who am I to say. If you are in love then go for it. Just remember what I said...at 36, she's looking for a husband.


    Good luck. And remember, asking advice is always good, but in the end, do whats right for you.


    Steve
     
  23. clem

    clem Private E-2

    Go for it, just watch out that she ain't trying to take advantage of you.
     
  24. Just Playin

    Just Playin MajorGeek

    legal-yes. Advisable-no. Take my word for it.
     
  25. Matacumbie

    Matacumbie Rocky Top

    With all the good advice and experiences here you should remember that these are different times. Some of us older guy's, not naming any names, have done that at some point in our young lives. Mostly for the excitement and taboo of the whole thing.

    But, nowdays there are so many things to watch out for. The mere fact that you are concerned about the legal ramifications go to my point. Think about STD's, concensual sex, I said she said stuff. This is really not the times to be fooling around with people you do not know or trust.

    I have followed your post's here and you seem like a intelligent young man with all kinds of interest and activities, I think you will do the right thing.

    BTW. My nieces and nephews hate me. ;)

    Steve
     
  26. Sgt. Tibbs

    Sgt. Tibbs Ultra Geek

    ROFLMAO!!!! As an almost-34-year-old single woman, I find that INCREDIBLY funny!!!!!!

    That may be true of some women. Others of us have no interest, intention, or remote desire to be married or settle down.

    <still giggling>

    *whew* That made me laugh so hard I scared the cat away! :rolleyes:
     
  27. Major Attitude

    Major Attitude Co-Owner MajorGeeks.Com Staff Member

    At age 50 for him, she will be. I can not happily joke along that its legal, it only has one useful purpose. I know, I did it. Her daughter rocked too. But I sure didnt get too involved with em.

     
  28. Major Attitude

    Major Attitude Co-Owner MajorGeeks.Com Staff Member

    Read above. Been there, done that and ohhhh, so much more. I remember the differences between the 2 ages... I hate to say too much in order to keep it appropriate, but looking back it was fun, but at the same time, every year has its own experiences, so if you stick close to your own age, you get to experience it all. I was pretty crazy in my younger years to say the least, so at that age, sure I would go for, just make sure its all about fun because it wont last is all im saying :)
     
  29. Sgt. Tibbs

    Sgt. Tibbs Ultra Geek

    Ah, I get it. I thought you were saying that when SHE was 50, she'd be collecting SS.

    And I wasn't really joking along...just pointing out something I read wrong that I thought you meant. The rest of my post made it clear that I've also done it, as has my father. It can work...or it can not work. Depends on the people involved, and what they expect to get out of it.
     
  30. Uncle Bob

    Uncle Bob MajorGeek

    The question was can a 19yr old date a 36 yr old. Yes, if 19 is past the age of
    majority. Go for it. If this is a passing fancy use the experience and learn how
    to treat a woman.


    Whew I don't think I would have the stamina to date some one that much my
    junior
     
  31. Kodo

    Kodo SNATCHSQUATCH

    yeah, with Timmah here. Been there.. done that.. it doesn't last. You're better off finding a younger chic(k).
     
  32. Freddy

    Freddy Sergeant

    I say go for it. We're not talking marriage and family here. You'll quickly find you don't have much in common, but enjoy it while it lasts.

    Maybe she's just into arm candy and you have a sugar momma for a while. If anything it'll be educational. Just remember there's other fish in the sea and this one will spoil alot faster.
     
  33. Shiver Me Timbers

    Shiver Me Timbers MajorGeek

    Where I live, it happens all the time.

    If you were to ask my opinion, I would give it freely.
     
  34. Learning As I Go

    Learning As I Go Sergeant

    Been there done that.

    However, in my case - it didn't go well.

    The sex was fantastic, but that's all it was. Despite the use of protection, she got pregnant times 2. She took full advantage of my naivity, and I ended up getting screwed in the end. After the sex got old, we discovered there was no other foundation for a real relationship.

    Can a 19 year old date a 36 year old

    Hell ya, I am still attracted to older women. I find, however, that the older I get the closer in age the women I'm attracted to are. Women (to me) that are between 35 and 45 are just yummy.

    Because of past experience though, I refrain from dating and I concentrate on my children's lives.

    The opposite end of the spectrum is................ I am an attractive guy, I look very young for my age, and when I'm out with my kids - I am constantly asked if they are my little sisters. I am always asked by really cute 18-20 year olds. They are trying to flirt and as flattering as it is - I would never date a 19 year old. Sure the sex would be great, but the drama involved and the fact that we would have nothing in common keeps me from going down that road. Especially when I hear my 12 year old talking to a 19 year old and it sounds like, "Oh my god those shoes are soooooo cute, I know I got from Macy's, really I'm going to go and get me some.........blah, blah, blah". It really gets on my nerves quick.

    You know me a little now, and you know I live in GA, too. I live in a college town and 18-20 yr. olds abound. It's tempting but it's not the right thing for me. If you think it will be okay for you, then go for it. Older women are soooooo sexy. Just be cautious and realize what you are getting into. Make sure there is more of a foundation for a relationship than sex. Sex will fade, but a solid relationship can last forever. Age is only a state of mind. Well atleast until stuff stops working like it used to :) .

    And if you do proceed, and she gets pregnant - and you get screwed. You know where to go for support. I spent all day yesterday at that forum trying to support single fathers / soon to be single fathers.

    Thanks again for helping support me the other day. I still can't belive someone would hack a single fathers support group.

    BTW: for those that are interested. In addition to this forum, I belong to another support forum. It is called "Responsible Single Fathers", it is not gender exclusive. We have some female members, too. If you are interested there is a link in the Networking sub-forum under the tiltle, "Great site hacked - help!". Last thing, FYI - The site has almost been fully restored, about 85-90% of the forum was recovered and we've been going on business as usual. Thanks to everyone who offered their support. :)

    LAIGo
     
  35. laurieB

    laurieB MajorGeek

    as a 'more mature ' woman myself, i am often chatted up by men younger than me. although the fantisy might be occasionally nice, the reality is that a 19yr boy is ill equipped to deal with the emotional demands of someone whose accumilated life experience is double that of his. in addition the one with the claim to maturity is supposed to act accordingly, not go around f*&#king the brains out of any pair of trousers pointed in that direction. i have to say, i have serious doubts about ANY one that age needing to bolster their ego to that degree. still you cant put an old head on young shoulders (ROFL... no puns intended).....aloha
     
  36. suttsteve

    suttsteve Private E-2

    You're both legally adults. I don't see why not.
     
  37. Solange

    Solange Sergeant Major

    From a happy single almost 36 year old woman, great to have someone to laugh together with in this matter! :D

    For some reason it is looked down upon when a young man dates an older woman. I've never been interested in younger men, they don't usually challenge me enough mentally, frankly, I don't have anything to talk to them about. Men above my age have always been more interesting, both when I was around 19 and still is to this date.

    When and older man dates a younger woman, people around chuckle and say "lucky guy". Why is it harder for people to accept when a young man dates an older woman? Are older women really that horrible?

    Some of my happier relationships have been with men that were considerably older than me. But it hasn't always been so, I have had happy relationships with men not that much older than me too. From my experience, age has very little to do with what works in a relationship. None of the relationships ended because of the age difference.

    To those who have been screwed by older women, I can only say that I'm sorry there are women like that. It's probably not a comforting thought, but I think they probably would have found a way to screw you even if you hadn't been that different in age. Some people are just bad, and unfortunately you don't know that till it's too late! :(

    I would say Go for it! :) Be careful and try not to end up with kids for a few years at least though... And good luck! :)
     
  38. Learning As I Go

    Learning As I Go Sergeant

    Just a quick clarification.

    Atleast in my case, the only reason age was a factor in my relationship - was I had a lack of it. I agree that bad people do bad things regardless of their age. It is just harder to spot the warning signs when you are young. ;)

    LAIGo
     
  39. sicari

    sicari Private E-2

    personally i would consider a random hook up, but dating someone that old? in my opinion its just not right, then again that just my opinion
    dont judge, just love! :p
     
  40. ASUS

    ASUS MajorGeek

    Yes




    Know what we call the 36yr old dating a 19 yr old
    :-DCOUGAR:-D




    In IL 17 yr's old and up is the legal age for Cougars












    Confucius say: Grass on the Field Play Ballroflmao
     
  41. Sgt. Tibbs

    Sgt. Tibbs Ultra Geek

    And we resurrected a four-year-and-four-month-old thread because.... ???
     
  42. KathyM

    KathyM Master Sergeant

    I seen that there was a reply and then I got curious:-D He is now 22 and she is 40!! I wonder if they are still together :confused
     

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