Pregnancy is supposed to be a joyous time!

Hi all

My darling wife is now 20 weeks pregnant and yes I am over the moon :celebrate and cannot wait for the birth of the baby

She had her Anomaly scan yesterday and baby is normal (as can be) so that gave me a chance to drink a celebratory bottle of champagne ( none for pregnant wife )

Trouble is that while we are trying to keep everything on a positive note, most of the health professionals are making us more and more anxious
For instance: my wife has to watch what she eats and drinks obviously, however, the more 'experts' that are involved, the more conflicting the advice!
One doctor says that she should not drink Cranberry juice and the Midwife says she should drink lots of it!?? Doctor says no to Eggs and Midwife says she needs eggs for protein!
If we type in the question in a search engine - pregnancy foods to avoid, there are 476,000 websites to choose from!

Next up is the question about should she still be doing all the housework, laundry etc . I side strongly with the ' right up until labour day' group LOL
Seriously though, everyone is different in what they can manage, Heavy lifting is a no-no and gardening are out, but she has been told to keep fit for the next 4 months. I just want to wrap her up in cotton wool and let her take things easy, but who do you listen to?
I am thinking of pulling the plug and discoonecting the PC from the Internet for the next 4 1/2 months; if only to retain some sanity

So now that I have shared our good news, I was wondering if you would share your experiences or ones you have heard about on this subject

G

 

My one rule of thumb that all doctors and midwives agree on.... "If GOD did not create it, don't eat it ! "
Congrats to both of you .... the event of new life is grand ....indeed !

Charlene

 

I agree Laura

And, congrats to the two of you.

 

Thanks for the sound advice Gal,Laura, KBits and Kes And of course the kind wishes !

I will relay your advice to the boss

Raw eggs and blue cheeses are other ones we know about.

G

 

Congrats, Grumbles.
We have three normal kids, and I ate and drank everything the entire pregnancies.
Seriously though, my wife avoided alchohol, and wouldn't think of eating raw eggs. The experts have been over-thinking things for years, and every so many years they change their minds. Just eat the way you should be anyways. Humans were having babies long before the experts came along. If there are no complications all normal activities should be fine too.

 

And if there are complications, stick with one single doctor that you trust, and ignore the advice of everyone else. It helps you keeping your sanity intact.

And CONGRATULATIONS!

 

Congrats to you, Grumbles, and your wife!:cool

Yes, like the others said, it's basically common sense, (okay maybe common sense isn't all that common these days). Basically, life goes on much the same. I'm not privy to any special medical issues your wife might have, no I'm assuming there isn't any. That said, just the rules you know about. Eat good nutrition, mild to medium exercise - but not heavy. Avoid anything physically or emotionally stressful, (including worrying excessively about details!). Basically, it's not that much different from normal life, apart from the immense pleasure of creating another life .

As for the i-net. Yeah, I know family comes first, but it's also pretty handy to have an escape from the 'real world' for a while, and not to mention all ya mates!

We had two kids, even with a wife with some severe disabilities, and both were/are fine. Notwithstanding two miscarriages, but that was due to the wife’s medical issues, and having children relatively later in life.

Wishing you both all the best, mate! :cool

 

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Expecting a chip off the ol' block huh?! Congrats!

As for different advice...moderation is the key, lotsa fresh fruit, vegetables, and light exercise with much laughter.

Cheers

LS​

 

congratulation Grumbles and Mrs Grumbles other than that not a lot i can add.

my wife did nothing but eat for the last three months before the birth of our daughter with no ill effects and she grew into a fine woman she's 37 and unbearably healthy and at this moment she is here in Belgium with us for couple of weeks
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Congratulations to you both!!
There is already enough good advise, no need to add my two cents,

 

G, even with the frustration and confusion, these are times you will remember fondly some day.
Just wait until you get to hold your little one and change your first diaper.


I so hope it's a boy. Your first diaper change will test your quickness. LOL

 

I cannot believe all the nice posts from the members here It is really appreciated and my wife is grateful for your advice

Thanks

 

LOL Am I missing something here :confused

 

Congratulations to you and your wife, re food just use common sense IMO...nothing that is aged, raw etc.

 

I don't want to ruin the surprise. Once your child is born, remind me and I will fill you in.

 

SO glad for you! It's terrific!! I wish all the best in this nice but difficult time!

 

We had a sexing scan done and you will be delighted to know it is a boy What happens Musky?

G

 

Didn't you read my Email?
When you change a boy's diaper, something (colder air on wet parts?) causes them to to shower you, if you're not quick enough.
Start practicing your duck and roll. LOL

Oh and congratulations on the wee laddie.
Grumbles the Second wouldn't sound right on a girl LOL

 

Congratulations once again. How old is your girl now, 3 4 ? Is she excited? Thats a nice age spread. Around August is the due date? LOL I'm full of questions, sorry.

 

LOL at Muskie! Yes I got your email, ty, just wanted you to publicly tell us all

@Laura ; Yes its our first baby

@ Kestrel ; Yes you were right all along. Intuition

@Darlene and Laura ; Our wee daughter is 3 and a half, but we adopted her at 14 mths, so we have never experienced the baby stuff yet :eek
Due date is August 29th approx

 

A boy G is it to soon the get him signed up for the celts?

Congrats mate to you both

 

Being an old (really old) and retired (6 years now) OB-Gyn, I hesitate to offer advice, other than to say -------- if it feels good, do it. If it doesn't eat you first, eat it. Common sense is the mantra. I tried to get my ladies to avoid coffee, colas, nicotine and alcohol. Any questions are best gone over with the doctor in charge. If she has gestational diabetes or develops pre-eclampsia, then special diets, activities, etc. will prevail.

Get plenty of rest and sleep NOW, because the first few weeks (unless you're REAL lucky) you won't get alot. Plan on being as helpful to her as you can as far as you can, and let her know daily how much you love her and cherish her gift she is giving both of you.

Then take 8-9000 photos the first month and begin the process of spoiling the hell outta that rascal.

Congrats, man. All the best.

 

when this boy is big enough to come on MGs maybe his forum name should be GRUMBLY, a small version of his proud dad.

my daughter is now 37 (she won't like me broadcasting that) and i have forgotten all the sleepless nights but i can never forget the great times we had watching her grow up plus we have all the photo's.

and now with digital camera's it's so much easier.

and CONGRATULATIONS to you and Mrs Grumbles.

 

Hey, congrats on your new baby son, Grumps!:celebrate Actually, the first few years are the easiest, i.m.o. It gets harder from then on, lol - so make the most of it while you can.

My son turned 21 last month, and it doesn't even seem all that long ago he was a babe-in-arms. So take it from this old(ish) geezer, that time soon passes byhttp://i59.photobucket.com/albums/g309/Zobor/orange_grump.gif. Best wishes for the future, man.

 

Steady on there!! We have still got 4 months until the wee rascal makes his appearance!!

@ Wildwolf ; i will get this plan in motion now

@ Kestrel ; is that smiley of a crying baby or you still laughing? LOL

@ Gensuknives ; thanks for the advice on looking after my wife, i certainly will do as much as possible. 9000 photos :eek Thanks for the warning

@ Bill ; maybe i should get him pre-registered in the Arcade now!!

@ Phantom ; I will treasure every day

 

So hows it going? Got a few weeks to go huh? That last month is the longest of all, like all nine rolled into one. So worth it afterward.

Bill Cosby had a suggestion on how to share the birth experience for the father. You can do this along with your wife.

Take your lower lip and squeeze it as hard as you can, keep squeezing til your eyes water, til you think you can't stand any more.
Now take it and stretch it over your head,

PS Don't let the wife see this.

 

Congrats.

Unlike the rest of them, I have no advice for you. You'll just have to learn as you go along.

 

Congratulations!
oh. and her body will tell you what it wants you to get for her to eat at 3am from the local grocery store.

 

My wife is 32 weeks pregnant and has been diagnosed with Placenta Previa grade 4 (the worst ) and has been admitted to hospital until 37 weeks when they will carry out either a normal or emergency C-Section. I will not be allowed to be present at the birth either
But on a positive note, the baby is perfectly normal, kicking lumps out of Mummy and will be with us before we know it

G

 

Aw sorry to hear it's not going as you hoped but it will turn out fine in the end. Thinking good thoughts to you both. Keep us posted.

 

Sorry to hear about the complications, G. I'm hoping the C-Section goes smoothly for her and baby.

 

I agree. Salmonella anyone? *shudder*

 

At 7.15 Heather (my wife) haemorraged big time. It was like a tap was turned on with blood pouring out. She was screaming. I rushed to her and she was hysterical and I quickly called 999. They kept asking for my address and I kept having to verify the details - it was really silly. H was screaming and they just kept talking about my address 10 times!

I ran over to my neighbour and she quickly went to help heather. AJ (3yr old daughter) was upset and my heart was getting out of control, I thought I was going to feint as the pressure was crazy.
Ambulance came in 10 minutes and they were not too helpful to say the least. We got H into the ambulance but they sat there for at least 5 minutes trying to get the oxygen and needles in. I kept telling them to get their finger out and drive. It is crucial for H and baby that we get to hospital as baby can die.
Heather has Placenta Previa Grade 4 (the most serious condition) See this link for a similar story: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sMXA_fxbaSk&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwQjjmitt9o


Driver put on the blue lights and siren then took the wrong opening at the top of our street, so had to go the long way to the motorway
It is 16 miles to the hospital and he went a long way through the housing estates and over loads of speed bumps!
All this time, we thought that we had lost the baby, so you can imagine how H was at this time.
Finally got to the entrance to the hospital, and the driver overshot the entrance by 10 yards!! He realised his mistake and started to reverse. Another car turned right into the entrance and BANG! He hit them side on
No one was hurt but I was shaking my head in disbelief by then at the driver of the ambulance!
H was rushed straight inside ( I had phoned the hospital 10 minutes prior) and they stabilised her and got the Babys' heartbeat . All well ! She is now in the best place possible.

My mum and dad had arrived to get AJ from the neighbors house and then my dad and our angel neighbor came to pick me up. The neighbour had washed the sheets and the shower, but the bedroom still looks like a battlefield - i have never seen so much blood. The carpets are splattered and the curtains now a different color!. Thats tomorrows job. As long as H and Baby are okay, I don't really care about the house.
I will update soon.

G

 

Oh my god, you poor things, going through this. I thought she was already in the hospital for some reason.
That driver didn't make things any easier for you. Thank goodness all is ok now.
Will say a prayer for all of you. Take care and keep in touch

 

Wow Grumbles, what a day for you.

You and your wife and baby are in my thoughts for everything to be fine I am glad things are ok now.

You take care

 

She was admitted, but the consultant discharged her saying that as long as she is accompanied by an adult and stays within 20 minutes of the hospital, then she would benefit more from being at home.

G

 

Hey grumbles, my prayers are with you and your wife and unborn child.

 

Wow, G, I almost bypassed this thinking it was old news.
I hope all goes well and will be waiting for more news.
Prayers up for all 3 of you.

 

Oh my god... What a horrific experience. Is everything ok now? She's still in the hospital, how is the baby?

My mother went through this, but was not so lucky as your wife. My brother was born at 21 weeks and lived for about an hour (Christmas eve 2004) my mother nearly hemorraged to death but thankfully pulled through. I'm so so glad your story has a happier ending.

I hope they fired the ambulance team too, omg.

 

So sorry to read of the horrific time that you and Heather have been through. Glad she and baby are okay again, now, and that you have such supportive neighbours. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way, G.

B.T.W.: Sounds like the ambulance driver needs to have a complaint lodges before he costs someone their life.

 

I'm really glad to hear Heather and baby are OK, looking forward to happy news of the birth and a bouncing baby.

 

Oh my! What a horrific time! I'm so happy mom and baby are alright despite the delays. My prayers are with your family and your next door angel.

 

Shit G, when i started reading that i thought the worst had happened

That was an experience to go through mate:eek

So glad to hear heather and the little one are fine.