Need some major relationship advice/help

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Pleeb, Apr 30, 2008.

  1. Pleeb

    Pleeb Private First Class

    Alright so I've been dating this girl for 6 months and we have a lot in common and were like best friends too. I've never been happier with someone before and recently she just said I was starting to bug her and she was too stressed out and broke it off. I tried to tell her I deserve a chance to fix it but she wouldnt go for it. I got her to agree to keep talking for a week as friends (she won't accept not being close friends no matter what so I'm not losing her as a friend) and then talk about giving it another shot. In not sure how to go about conviencing her to give me a chance to fix what was bothering her. I would really appericate any advice especially from any female minds because I want to contuine dating her as I am so incredibly happy being with her.
     
  2. TimW

    TimW MajorGeeks Administrator - Jedi Malware Expert Staff Member

    If there is "something" bothering her and she won't talk about it and gives you that other lame BS ...then it ain't you!! Run...fast as you can in the opposite direction!! Take the hint she gave you .....and RUN!!
     
  3. bigbazza

    bigbazza R.I.P. 14/12/2011 - Good Onya Geek

    Run, it ain't worth the heartache. Bazza
     
  4. Pleeb

    Pleeb Private First Class

    she said it was because I was getting too serious and I do get carried away too quickly a lot so I do believe her as it has been a problem with previous relationships
     
  5. dyamond

    dyamond Imelda Marcos of Majorgeeks

    I wouldnt necessarily say run if she means that much to you. Its obvious something is wrong and maybe she doesnt feel she can share it with you.

    I dont know her or the situation really so I cant say for sure but I know one thing, the more you push the more she will pull away so just be her friend - thats it, just a friend. Trust me, I know! rolleyes:D

    *Im currently being stalked by my ex right now*
     
  6. LauraR

    LauraR MajorGeeks Super-Duper Administrator Staff Member

    I've got to say from a woman's perspective that that is a big no no. You don't want to feel like you're being smothered by the guy. Feeling like you are being pushed to go faster emotionally than what you are ready for is a huge turn off. The best thing you can do at this point (besides run as all the guys (and kes) are saying :D) is hang back and play it cool. No matter how hard that is for you, hang back and give her a lot of space. She may come back to you. And do not look vulnerable...another turn off.

    Good luck, dude.
     
  7. Rikky

    Rikky Wile E. Coyote - One of a kind

    Previous relationships?Your only eighteen,if your moving through them that fast just find someone else who's looking for a serious relationship shouldn't take you too long:D
     
  8. TimW

    TimW MajorGeeks Administrator - Jedi Malware Expert Staff Member

    Hey....I stopped doing that a week ago.....(Damn restraining orders........)
     
  9. Pleeb

    Pleeb Private First Class

    thank you that is very helpful to hear that from someone else and no just her, what do you think I should say to her over the next week and then on the day we talk about this?
     
  10. Pleeb

    Pleeb Private First Class

    Lol only 2 one was a joke and the other lasted a little over 1.5 years
     
  11. Pleeb

    Pleeb Private First Class

    thanks for the advice and that does sound like my best option right now, should I tell her tonight or tomorrow to patch things up about how badly I screwed up trying I get he back and unknowingly pushed her away then give her this space you talk of? Lol
     
  12. wildwolf220

    wildwolf220 Oracle of Doom

    roflmaoroflmaoroflmao were you harassing her for cake Tim :D
     
  13. darlene1029

    darlene1029 A Grand Lady- R.I.P. 06/06/2012

    Bare with me, I do remember being young.
    I have a daughter in her forties that did the same thing (break up thing) saying the guy was there all over the place just there, everywhere she was.

    But on the younger side females tend to tire of one person and want to experience different people. I think by hanging around as friends will just hurt you and annoy her. She might agree to it but it'll be out of pity, thats a harsh term but I did it myself when I was younger. You can be incredibly happy with someone else. Don't let this break you down.
     
  14. Scousetechie

    Scousetechie Specialist

    Just walk away and move on.
     
  15. Triaxx2

    Triaxx2 MajorGeek

    Always remember, Love is for suckers. Bachelor's Unite!

    If we decide it's worth getting out of bed tomorrow we might decide to go bother the Procrastinators.
     

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