How do you remember how to be single?

As of tomorrow morning I'm going to be single again for the first time in almost two years. Not that we were married, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with the relationship, it's just that he's moving 75 miles away. What exactly do you do with yourself when you've spent darn near every waking moment with someone for so long you don't remember what you used to do alone before?

 

sorry to hear that and i can totaly relate to what your saying.
i have been married for over 20 years. and in that time i think
we have only spent 5 days apart. you become so used to eachother
you just cant imagine ever being single again.

 

Pity about him moving away. It will no doubt take some adjusting to. As said, you just find something to do, and do it. Find things and people that you get pleasure from.

I had to get used to being 'single' after about 25 years. Six years down the track, all I can say is that it still isn't easy.

As for the past, just look at it as enjoying a positive experience while it lasted. About the only thing we have for certain in life, is that everything is only temporary, sooner or later, for whatever reason , - whether it be due to death or just circumstances.

Some emotional/spiritual 'holes' in life never get filled, but we can fill the rest of our lives with whatever good things that are left, if you know what I mean. And there are always new doors of opportunity to open.

 

No long distance thing. I mean, we'll still see each other on occasion, but the exclusive relationship part is over. He left about an hour ago.

Social life. *snort* What a concept...haven't had one of those for years. We met through work.

Thanks, guys. I probably shouldn't even have posted this, but I'm a freaken basket case.

 

Thats the beauty of the internet and communications nowadays Get a webcam installed so that you can still see and speak to each other
You will be fine once you adjust to your own time. Could be worse and he was moving 750 or 7500 miles away
All the best
G

 

You have my deepest sympathies! This is probably the worst way a relationship can end in some respects, to be split up by circumstances rather than by the emotions changing or ending. It is so much more difficult to find "closure".

Can't give you any advice though, I tend to mess things up badly for myself coming out of relationships... Lol.

Take care, and good luck!

 

I'm so sorry Sgt. Tibbs, this is in no way a recommendation, when mine fell apart after 23 years I cried for 3 weeks then drank for the next couple years, bad choice.
I agree with staying busy and create a social life. Good luck, nothing lasts forever (good or bad)

 

I don't know how NOT to be single.

 

I've always found being single easy. Being in a relationship is much harder!

 

No idea....

I've been with the same person for almost 5 years now, and I can't imagine what I would do if they were not in my life any more.

The hardest part I would think is that you tend to develop mutual friendships and then you don't know what to do with them because you don't want to put your friends in an awkward position either.

Best advice is take it one day at a time.

Just don't shut down your social life...


~C