Update on Abby

Just wanting to update Abby's absence from the board to those that have sent her PM's but haven't got a reply yet. Abby had to cut short her vacation and fly to New York Tuesday morning to be with her family as her mom had been quite ill for some time and took a turn for the worse. Sadly, her mom passed away yesterday but she's with a loving family and they are all drawing comfort from each other. She asked me to let the regulars here that know her and her family (max, a member here, is her dad) appreciate all the love and prayers she's receiving from everyone, and a special thanks to Halo, Tim & Jim for being great caring friends. I'm not sure how long she'll be away as the family has priority right now obviously, but I'm sure she'll update everyone once she has a chance to catch her breath and stop in.

One thing remains consistent: when she's away, our house feels empty as hell without her there. Hurry home soon, I miss you a bunch and have totally forgotten how to cook...

 

Im so sorry to hear that star.
Abby Doesn't really know me, But i would like to pass on my sympathies to Abby and her family at his sad time.

 

A very sad time when we lose a loved one,please pass on my most sincere sympathy and regrets.

 

Ah sorry to hear that mate, wish her all the best from me!

 

Prayers are with Abby, her family and you ....

 

Been away for a while and have been hesitating to ask where she was hiding out at.

Sorry to hear about the loss, and glad the family is together!! That is the most important!!

 

Sorry for your loss Theresa.

Randy

 

Sending out sympathies to abbey.... Family can be the best support group there is.

Jim

 

My deepest condolences are with you Teresa, Max and family. Also thinking of you Chris, in these difficult times. As you say, she is with a very loving family.

Take care, all.

 

My condolences go out to Teresa, Max, and the rest of the family. Losing a loved one is so hard, but made a little easier with family around you.

Take care.

 

Thanks for the update RocketMan.

Our Prayer for strength at this trying time.

 

Heartfelt condolences to AbbySue and her family.

There is a strength in families and hopefully that will be enough to lessen the pain of her loss.

 

Star, sorry to hear about Abby's mother.
Prayers going out for both of you.

 

Thanks all, nice of you folks to find time to share some good karma with her and her family. Actually, they seem to be coping quite well under the circumstances but that's no surprise because they really are a special family and are celebrating the life rather than mourning the loss. It will be a bit tough not having her home over the weekend as we always go to the beach, but all in all she's where she needs to be right now.

 

You got my paryers Teresa, Max and family.

 

Condolences to you, Star and Abby from bigbazza

 

Condolences indeed.

 

Abby doesn't know me, but I want to send my heartfelt support and condolences to herself and her family. With all the good love and caring sent through this forum I dearly hope that she feels the strength and love that she needs at this time. It's devastating, but one day I DID wake up and know that the loved ones I had lost were not ever, ever gone. I hope Abby and her family grow to find that too. I think I am secure in saying that if Abby's family needs any kind of practical help in the area in which she lives, she can post here, and the army will rally. We're all here when you come back. With Love.

 

This is going to sound trite, but my sincerest condolences. It's hard, but it makes it slightly easier to be able to say goodbye.

 

SO sorry to hear this My thoughts and prayers are with you. Love you guys.. if you need anything, buzz me.

 

My condolences, to Teresa and her family. They are in my prayers.


God Bless,
Kevin

 

Glad to hear that she herself isn't hurt\sick, but it can be just as bad when a family member is hurt\sick.

 

My sincere condolences to Abby and the family.

 

Thanks again on behalf of Abby for the replies. For those of you desiring to share some thoughts with Abby or her father, there's a guestbook available for signing in memory of her mom.

http://www.christophermitchell.com/ViewServices.aspx?ID=3630

 

I don't know the family well enough to sign the guestbook, but my heart and love goes out to Teresa while she copes with all of this. I love you!

 

Just happened to stop by, and I saw this thread...so sorry, Theresa...We think of you and Chris from time to time, and we always smile when we do. I hope we can send some of that smiling back to you now to comfort you during this time.
Eric

 

Hi Eric...good to see you. Thanks for the good karma, they are actually doing pretty well. In fact, Abby's son took her to the stock car races last night but they got rained out. She's going to be up there for another month, but the family matters will be in good order when she leaves I'm sure.

Say hi to Cindy and the kids for us; always good to see a beloved member of the '02 krew pop in!

By the way, I have NO idea where those shorts ended up; I think Abby knows, but I'm not sure. However, the Fr00t LooPs are plentiful, so don't get any ideas. :-D

 

Someone bribed someone to keep quiet for sure. :-D

 

Thank you all for the kind words of support during this difficult time. Dad and I are both pretty wiped out not only emotionally, but from everything that has needed to be taken care of. We are getting through each day a little easier now and trying to focus on the good times we had with mom.

While I will always miss my mom it was a blessing when she went to be with God. She was in so much pain and angry about it, that it added years to her beautiful face. When she passed, she looked not only years younger, but peaceful. I try to remember that when I'm feeling really down.

I still have much to take care of here so will be here at least until September 4th. In my spare time I've been hanging out with my kids and grandchildren. Funny how the grandkids remember all of my ticklish spots! LOL

One thing that has made things a bit more difficult is family drama. Why is it that 'so called' family can't accept and respect the documented wishes of someone who has passed? It's not only infuriating, but hurtful. While I understand everyone grieves in different ways, why do something that would essentially be spitting in the face of the deceased and slapping at the immediate family (me, my dad & brothers) who are doing everything in their power to honor and respect the wishes of my mom? It's not about what we want or need, it's about what SHE wanted and to hell with everything else.

You see, and I have found that more and more people are choosing essentially the same type of thing.....my mom wanted to be cremated, brought home and then along with my dad, younger handicapped brother (when their time comes) and her beloved golden retriever all the ashes will be taken to The Thousand Islands. Their wish is for all of them to be scattered there together so they can be where they have so many wonderful memories. Mom was adamant that there be no funeral, wake, memorial service or gathering of any kind. She wanted to be remembered privately in the hearts and minds of those who knew her like she was when she was healthy and happy. To go against her wishes, in her own words "would piss me off and be unforgivable". Funny (not!) how we thought, including my mother, that there was enough love & respect for her that everyone would abide by her requests. It's so sad that when the family should be pulling together to offer support or whatever that it is being pulled apart by half-truths, outright lies and sneaking around. *sigh*

I'm trying so hard to understand and accept what some are doing but I can't. The respect and consideration I once gave to certain family members is forever gone. I don't give a rats arse what they say they 'need' or 'want'! The only thing that matters is what my mom wanted and the rest of them can kiss my arse.:mad

I didn't intend to put all that here in this thread but I guess I really needed to get it out so if you read it, thank you. Otherwise I apologize for being so long winded.:eek

@ Dan...thank you from the bottom of my heart for leaving a note for me in the on line guest book. While you obviously didn't know my mom, the guest book is there so that those who knew my mom, dad, myself or my brothers can leave messages of support. My father & brothers were also quite touched that you would take the time to leave a note for someone (me) you have never met in real life and only know via MG's. I wish I could find the words to fully express what I felt when I saw your message but I can't. Please just remember that I will never forget your kindness in reaching out to me during this difficult time. Thank you....

There is yet another guest book here. This one will only be on line for 30 days and we have the option of having it professionally printed, which we plan to do.

As a final note I wanted to show off the beautiful flowers that Chris sent me with the following note: "Just want you to know I miss you, and I'm very proud of what you are doing for your family. Hurry home! Love, Chris" If that wasn't special enough, he remembered that I said stargazer lilies were my favorite flower. What a guy...Thank you Sweetie, so very much for your unwavering support and understanding. I love you so very much.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v173/star17abby/MG/flowersfromchris.jpg

 

Our thoughts and prayers are with you Theresa.

They say time is a healer but memories live forever

 

I remember when my uncle died. My mom was very broken up. She called the house phone to tell his wife that she wasn't able to make it to the dinner, and heard my uncle on the answering machine and cried a lot. The whole thing made her very sad.

 

Teresa - Still thinking of you and your family and wishing you comfort and healing in path of grieving. In such times, we draw from each other in kindred spirit and also from above.

Sadly, you are right in that often family members that should care the most understand the least. I had dramas and disappointment from family when my father passed away a few, years back, (actually, the month before you became a member in this place). We had no funeral or grave for basically the same reasons, so I can somewhat relate.

All I can say is cherish the memories and legacy, and let not anyone take from the precious relationship you had.

Good that you're seeing lots of your children and grandchildren, just wish it was under happier circumstances.

I know to say Chris is looking forward to your return is an understatement.

Kind regards and best wishes always.

Barry/Phantom.

 

Looks like she'll be home on or about 4 September. Thanks to those of you that posted good thoughts, it means a lot to her thus it means a lot to me. And yes Barry, it will be great to have her home again. I believe this is the longest we've been apart since we met 6 years ago.

 

Teresa, Max, Chris, my heart goes out to all of you during this time of grief. You guys were always there for me during my wife's worst times of here illness, my sister's accident and subsequent passing away and more recently my father's death earlier this year. I only wish that I had visited MG earlier and found out about this so I could lift you all up in prayer earlier.

Teresa, you know that if you ever need anything from me all you need do is call on me. I believe that you still have my contact information someplace and if you need it again then please pm me and I will get it to you. I'm not certain what I may be able to contribute here but if I have it, it is yours for the asking. You were always there for me in my time of need.

Chris, you have a VERY special lady here m8 (I know that you are already aware of this fact). I charge you with the responsibility that if she needs anything that I may contribute, you make sure she asks me for it please. Even though I have never met you two in person I feel as if you are part of my extended internet family and would love to help out in any way possible.

Max, you and I have never chatted much but I knew that you have been there as well. You have had many special people surround you both here and at home and you will continue to have that support in the future. If your wife was anything like your daughter (and I'm CERTAIN that they were) then you have been doubly blessed and Teresa will continue to be a blessing in your life. Cherish the love you have with your family and friends as well as the love that God shares with you and all will be well.

I remain still and always to be your friend,
Jack

 

OK, so I am not always right I guess. Sending all the positive thoughts I can muster (that's a whole lot right now) out to you.

@ Star.... nice man... really nice. I think we can all take a small lesson from that.

~C