Im not romantic! WTH!!!!

Hear this, my fiancee reckons I am not romantic, saying I don't even know what the word means!!

How friggin nice of her to say that! I`m romantic when I want something, like a new upgrade, or some peice and quite! or the other thing... can't say with the kiddies on the board! :-D

Sure, I don't take her out to dinner, but I get take away alot! more or less the same!

We've got 2 kids, Anthony 8, Jonas Isaiha 3, it is a bit hard to be a little romantic when they are 8 going on 28, 3 going on 23! Sort of takes the mood down.

I don't really know how else to be romantic, we've been together 5 odd years now, getting married on the 26th June this year, any tips on changing her mind in the romantic section...

I honestly don't know how to be really, except say flowers, tell her I love her every now and then.... stand through the birth of our son jonas and nearly pass out! that aint natural!!! :-o

 

Send the kiddies to a babysitter for the night, cook and serve dinner for her.(NO Mickey D' stuff).
Soft lights (maybe candlelight), good bottle of wine.Let her have her way.

 

Who is Mickey D??? :confused

 

Nick name for McDonalds (take away):-D

 

Put the kids to bed early, turn the lights down, put on some mood music, have a glass of wine and talk to her about how important she is to you.
Make sure you say " I love you" when leaving for work, when talking to her on the phone and before you go to sleep at night.
43 years to the same woman is proof that it works!

 

You know what I say: Romance is sex... without handcuffs . But then again... I'm newly single LOL

 

Trust me, if you're only romantic when you want something, she is absolutely correct.

TOTALLY agreed on sending the kids away and having a date night for the two of you! Date nights are important to a relationship. It doesn't have to be anything fancy...shoot, get Chinese takeout and rent a movie! But serve it on plates. And buy a bottle of wine (or your drink of choice).

But everyday romance doesn't have to be anything big, and flowers get to be routine after a while. Take a chore she normally does and do it for her while she puts her feet up. Rub her shoulders while you're watching TV. Randomly kiss her when you're home for no apparent reason, without expecting it to lead to something else. Tell her she's beautiful out of the blue.

By the way...getting takeout is NOT the same as taking her out for dinner. Going out for dinner is an escape from the house. It has less to do with the food and more to do with being together away from the house and kids.

 

Well, NOW you tell me . . .


Good suggestions all . . . but there are a few other things you can do that are romantic and don't involve sex.

Like Sgt. Tibbs said - random times during the day walk up and hug her, or just touch her shoulder or put your hand on her waist. Tell her now and then how pretty she looks today, or how nice it was when she did such and such. Now and then bring home a rose out of the blue, and leave it sitting on a table and let her find it.

If you work out of the house, leave notes for her - they don't have to be about anything in particular. Ask her about her day, and really listen when she tells you. If something negative recurs in her day to day routine, do what you can to get the problem squared away - if it's nothing you can fix, then be understanding and let her vent about such things.

My wife and I both work full time so we share the household chores. If you do the same, now and then do more then your share, or if you rarely do chores - surprise her by doing them now and then. I've found the women in my life always prefer "scour over flower" - washing the dishes doesn't sound romantic to me, but I can attest it makes an impression on the ladies . . .

I work the graveyard shift by choice, and get home an hour before my wife leaves for her job. I always make her coffee for when she gets up. If it has snowed the night before, I'll clean off her car, and dig a path from the house out to it - or just start it for her if it is a cold and frosty morning. She's not big on breakfast, but I'll knock something together for her if she wants it.

And always tell her you love her when leaving or returning, or on the phone.

 

Whooooaaaa ! You don't want none of that, Mickey D , i've heard he's trouble ! :-D

 

Been married and d'ed twice. You definitely don't want my advice! Not my thing.

 

see thats your problem right there, your trying to win. Theres no winning, only damage control! no Im just kidding,

Im gonna say something radical, talk to HER about it. Not us random interwebbers. Just my .02$

 

But then she is going to think I am only doing it because I asked her... so its a catch 22 situation.

All you guys got some good tips, although the sex one isn't really a tip.

 

Good luck.

 

Thanks, i am going to need it!

 

shes gonna know anyways when you start to do things you dont normally do.

 

Yes but I can lie and say I just took what she said in, and thought a change would be nice, if I ask her directly, I can't have any denability!

 

Hmmmmmm. Should have named this one "Advice to the Lovelorn"

 

-D:major:-Ddrool:wave:major

 

you would be surprised how often they will just let a little lie go. Doesnt mean they dont know.

I lived with my mom and 3 sisters, not saying Im a professional at 'women', im just saying. She might appreciate that you actually listened to her.

 

If you had gotten married 9 years ago, you'd be coming up on your 10th anniversary and you could take her someplace nice for dinner and give her a nice piece of jewelry with a diamond in it. Then you'd be in her good graces for a while. Or if you could send the kids to Grandmas for a few days and take her to someplace nice for a long weekend. Now, you don't want to do anything fancy because you'll have to top it when you get married.
http://bestsmileys.com/kissing1/5.gif

 

SO not true!!! It would be a really neat anniversary thing to do the exact same thing every year! My sister and her husband got engaged while camping on Lake Michigan. Every year they go camping for their anniversary at the same location. It's not fancy at all...it's romantic.

So many people think that as women we require jewelry, flowers, expensive whatever to be happy. Most of us just want to be appreciated for who we are and what we do, and to know that we are loved and cherished. The best present I ever got was a handful of dandelions in a jelly jar delivered on a tray with a cup of coffee and a bagel one morning in bed for no reason.

 

You are so Dead On SGT.Jewelry and flowers are nice but it's nice to have something done for you or to you unexpectedly.Mine Always calls to let me know he's on his way home just so that I don't worry.I didn't ask him to do this he started on his own one day and has been doing it since. He will buy something I Mentioned that LOOKED good (food wise) just because he wanted to.

Exox3 if you do any of the mentioned things here do it from your heart and because you want to, not because you think you have to do it to stop her from gripping about it. That will only make things worst.
Good Luck and Happy Romancing.LOL

BT

Another suggestion. When she comes in from work all tired and beat,get the children to bed a little early and run her a hot bath with candles and maybe put some soft music on and let her soak until She's ready to come out. You can even put some fragrance in the water. Just make sure the little ones are asleep so they don't bother her while she soaks.

 

I like it! My suggestion was based on what I read in this thread from the original poster. http://bestsmileys.com/flowers/4.gif

 

Just doing the little bitty thoughtful things (if you can think of any) that will let her know you really do care for her, will do more to cement a relationship than trying to wow her with jewels or flowers. Of course, those CAN help, now and then.

 

My Anniversary is coming up. I think I'll get her that new vacuum cleaner she's been eyeing.:heart

 

You probably said this as a joke, but if the one you've got doesn't work very well and she really has been wanting a particular new one, that might actually work.

 

Right.
A little expense now= Big dividends in the future.

 

Yes I was just being naughty, but if dandelions worked for you, maybe giving her something to make her day easier is just as good. If she gave me a tool I need I would appreciate that more than something of no use to me just to be romantic.

 

Take her bowling.:-D
I'm kidding EXOX3. I'm that guy too. I'm not romantic. I'm a decent guy, we do all kinds of stuff together, I make her laugh (she'll laugh at the bowling thing), I clean floors and bathrooms, she seems to like me.
It must be something you have to learn growing up.
I blame my Dad.

 

Exactly!! :-D Not that you shouldn't also maybe consider a nice dinner, but if she really, truly wants a new vacuum cleaner, that might not be a bad thing at all. :-D

(Personally, I would be completely thrilled if I were given a new soldering iron or socket set, but then I'm not like most women. )

 

I used to love getting tools.
The most precious jewelry I have is made from paper clips.

 

I shop at Lowe's and he shops at Publix(grocery store) :-Drolleyes

 

Does he cook?