Sorry In Advance

Hey MG, sorry if I miss some birthdays in the next couple of weeks.
Not sure what is happening at the moment but this morning 4/12/2022 at 2:57am my mum passed away. My sister and I were at the hospital and it was really sad and very distressing. I am the oldest son and there is a funeral to arrange and lots of friends and relatives to inform so I might not be on the forum very much and to cap it off I am having some health issues again so not sure what time will be left for MGs.
Sadly
Pete

 

So sorry to hear of your loss. At least you and your sister were with her. Sadly, I was not with either of my parents when they died.

Let your good memories overtake the sad ones.

 

So sorry Pete to hear of your Mum’s passing. I’m thinking of you during this sad time.

 

Please accept my condolence, Pete. I am so sorry!!

 

Thank you guys and gals as your thoughts mean a lot to me.....I am exhausted and couldn't sleep so here I am back on MG's doorstep lol

Hey Laura thanks for your very kind thoughts and a bit of an update. I had some pathology tests last week and the upshot is that I will be having a couple of CT scans and an MRI and then the specialists will have a mother's club meeting and decide what to do...........fingers crossed

Thank you for the good advice plodr and although it was distressing for me at the end, I am glad I could be there to say goodbye. So sorry that you didn't get the opportunity to be with your parents as I think in my case it helped me to be able to say my goodbyes and reassure her that she was not alone

Thank you Virginia and I appreciate your kind thoughts

Thank you Zebra Last and now the healing process begins......first is the funeral on Friday

Thank you for the kind words TechnicalBook and maybe we will catch up some time in the future under happier circumstances

 

Sincerest condolences.

“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals.“

Leo Tolstoy

 

So sorry for your loss Pete. You are in my thoughts.
It's like I've known you forever.

 

Thanks again Laura and fingers crossed is my strategy......although if I found a magic lamp and got three wishes .......

Thank you for your thoughts and as they say "Time is the healer"

Thank you Eldon and yes it has been a while for sure........it will be a sad Christmas this year so instead of me cooking a 6.5kg turkey buffé and also a honey glazed ham in the BBQ with all the roast vegies and trimmings then having the whole family over for a long boozy lunch that often stretches into dinner, this year for the first time ever I cancelled Christmas dinner at my place and we are all going out to a fancy restaurant on Christmas day for a traditional Christmas dinner. My thinking is that if we were at my place everyone would be sad that mum/nanna isn't there and with a few drinks under the belt it might turn into a miserable occasion but at a crowded restaurant everyone will have to put on a happy face out in public so it won't become a pity party........it might cost me a fortune but it is worth it so that future Christmas Days are not going to be remembered as sad occasions by my kids and siblings.....I am telling everyone we are celebrating mum's life and not her passing
Maybe next year we can go back to the traditional dinner at my place

 

It is good to change the routine for a holiday. I did the same for Thanksgiving, the year my husband lost his mother. I didn't want him sitting at the table staring at her empty place and feeling very sad. I informed my parents and his step-father, that we were going away for Thanksgiving week. We did something completely different that year so he wouldn't feel quite so sad.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I still remember that first Christmas after my Mom passed away. Know that all your Geek friends mourn with you and feel your loss. Regards.

 

Thank you Philipp....at least mum didn't suffer for very long.

Yeah similar train of thought to me and us being out in a fancy restaurant, everyone will, hopefully, be putting on a happy face

Thank you for the kind thoughts Gensuknives...... and having the family Christmas dinner in a fancy restaurant will make it special so hopefully everyone will have a happy memory going forward.

 

Thank you so much David and yes having family around helps lift your spirits although it has been a bit tough because it was totally unexpected and it all happened over six weeks.
We haven't caught up for a while ......I guess real life gets in the way of online life
Wishing you and your family a very merry Christmas and a healthy and happy new year

 

Jeez Dave sorry to hear about your aunt and uncle and as many have recently mentioned to me, that death eventually comes to us all but hearing this platitude doesn't make things any easier. I hope you had some support to help get through the bereaving process.
By the way thanks for your advice about mum's macular problems as it gave us some very specific questions to ask mum's ophthalmologist which lead to a much better outcome for her as previously he was going to do nothing but when confronted by what amounted to "insider knowledge" she was put on a series of expensive injections that bought her an extra four or five years of her diminishing sight.

We haven't even started sorting out mum's estate and it will be a problem as one of my estranged brothers is a confirmed narcissist and everything is about him and he always tries to take control......my father's estate ended up in the Supreme Court with most of the family suing my brother for their stated entitlements which he withheld and later sold.......lucky the family won and he had to pay for all the items that were sold plus over AU$120,000 in legal costs ......... at least mum has an ironclad will that will be difficult for him to challenge and this time he is not the executor so will play no role in distributing mum's estate.
Good luck settling your aunt and uncle's estate as this situation can bring out the best and worst of the human condition.

Take a break from work and go somewhere to relax over Christmas and don't work too hard although knowing you this will fall on deaf ears as I also know you really rise to the challenge of your research even though it is a tough grind and a lot of the hard work falls on only a few people.
Good luck in your future endeavours and take care......... I'll drop you a line when things get back to some sort of normal around here
Cheers Pete

 

Thank you for the kind words Nick and they say that time slowly heals all wounds so things are slowly getting better.............although Christmas was a bit quiet this year.
The family has decided to wait until late January next year to deal with mum's will and estate so that will be another memory trigger when we clear out her house

 

My condolences joffa. Losing your parents is hard. I hope time heals the wounds somewhat for you.

 

Thanks fleppen and yes things are getting a bit easier with time.