Anyone want a Wenchie?

So, this is a Shameless attempt at collecting hugs. My life is falling apart once again, but it that way that has to happen in order for it to improve.

My fiance left me, but he sleeps on my couch because he has no place to go. And every day he says how much he loves me, every night he says every hurtful thing that he can think of because I do or say something that disagrees with him, and he always tells me how much he loves me when i tell him I have absolutely no desire to work this out. He's shown finally what a man he is... after suking me financially dry, robbing me of all my friends and my self esteem, and making sure I never do anything without him/his approval. I've tried to leave him many times, and finally I completely ignored everything he said and after about 6 weeks he was mad enough to leave me "because it's what *I* needed" but not leave or leave me alone.

That's why I've been so quiet. Im not allowed to "sit at that damned computer all day" The computer i pay $50/mo NOT to use, because it takes attention and time away from him. And I might meet someone online and cheat on him,, etc. etc. etc.

So he has one week to find a job. Or I throw him out. I take all his paychecks and put them in the bank where he has no acess to them, and then he's so leaving ASAP.

It's just hard, and hurtful, and anyone who has some hugs to give, I could use all i can get. I can't even give kay a christmas because of this jack ass... So anyone who prays, put one in for me... I need a miracle.

 

BIGGGG HUGSSSSSSS ,,You deserve them !!! Glenn


I know its been MORE then a rough ride .....

 

Wenchie, you're in my prayers. Not to cause alarm, but I did see an article (in a Dear Abby/Ann Landers column) where some of these traits you've described will lead to an abusive relationship. I'm glad you are smart in recognizing this and getting this guy out.

 

oh well, i'm waiting for Tim's i told you so, he was right. And although he never laid a hand on me, he could have and i'd probably be less damaged. At least those wounds heal. Thanks for the Prayers, i appreciate it.

 

I want a Wenchie. You should appear in Wales for a sheep and a pint of Scrumpy.
and of course, a great big **hug**.

Hope he get's his arse into gear and out of there, so you can go back to normal.


Wenchie? Normal? phaa..

 

if he gives you any crap, give Jim squared a call. we'll help drag him out of the apartment.

 

While I don't know much about your personal life, it sounds like you seriously need to take some time off from intimately engaging with males for a while. Spend more time with your daughter, focus on your vocation, take up a new hobby, or go back to an old hobby. Also, during that time, you could do yourself a favor and find out what you REALLY want from a MAN...Not a BOY like I've seen you post about in the past. While they may provide some financial security (apparently not this time around though), the emotional twists and turns are rarely worth it.

I'm sorry this had to happen to you Wenchie. I, too, have suffered a similar fate recently. You will be on my mind.

I hope all gets well.

If so, I demand pictures/videos.

 

He's giving me lots of crap. I'm trying to decide where I want to go tonight that isnt home.

Gottheit, that's funny, because that's exactly what I said to him. Just about ver batem. (sp?) You're absolutely right.

 

Wench,
I'm so sorry. We'll be praying. What Ken and Gottheit said.

You deserve better, but you have to believe that yourself, and have the will to hold out for what is best for you and Kahlyn, and not settle for less. Not an easy task, I know, but in the long run it's worth it.

We love you. Take care.
Eric

 

I want a Wenchie.

But my wife won't let me have one.

Leave NY and come to Minnesota. We've got fewer jerks here. Of course that's because we have fewer people.

 

Sorry to hear things aren't working for you Wenchie, agree with Gott too.

Have as much faith in yourself as we here have in you

Hope the path gets smoother for you and K.

 

I don't really know you, but wish you the best of luck.

 

I would ***love*** to have a Wenchie, thank you!
Don't let that lamer get between you and the 'puter.
Put him out if you need to.
A clean break.

If it ain't working, it ain't working!
Code & machines can be tweaked and fixed. Lamer people? I don't think so.

Drive on, Wenchie, you are so worth being true to yourself.



Robert

 

Anyone got a bat?

I want a geekfest. Make me a geekfest. I need to hit my reset button.

Mispon, if I could afford a flight I'd be on it. It might beone way.. got a nice spot on the floor i could borrow?

I really have no desire to date. I didnt want to date him either, and I told him that from the beginning and this was exactly why. I mean, relationships are just a general bother, because despite the usual age/maturity differential, I have a child and the full scope of adult reponsibility when most of my peers are out raising havock and making the stories their children wont let them tell their friends on down the line. I want honesty, stability, security and dependibilty and they want sex. lots of sex.

So? Forget it. Men can rot until I've had time to live my life for me, and if I end up and old maid, so what? At least I'll know i never compromised again.

 

I even have a spare bed and blanket.

Well..er, my parents do..

 

Wenchie, your ex is a classic control freak. Giving him to the weekend is kind. By Friday, have security change the locks on your apartment, and on Saturday put his things in the hall if he doesn't get them out himself. Have nothing more to do with him; don't take his calls, don't meet him anywhere, nothing. Control freaks are good a twisting everything their way, and can even sound sincere and reasonable at times. They're not. They're just manipulative. Cut it off clean. And be careful. As has been noted, the worst of them CAN get violent when they don't get their way. Having Kodo and/or some other real muscle there wouldn't hurt anything.

And please, please, before going anywhere else with any new relations, go to the library and take out the book "The Ten Things Women Do To Screw Up Their Lives" by Laura Schlesinger. You may want to follow that with "The Ten Things Men Do To Screw Up Their Lives" just for balance.

You're a great girl, with a lot of heart, but you definitely need a better strategy for life and relationships or life is just gonna keep kicking you in the face.

Big hugs and lots of prayers headed your way.

 

Welcome back Wenchieeeeee!!!!

Old maid...pffffft, some men adore a challenge, and there's a big difference between compromise and surrender.*

*I refer to my Frank Zappa quote in an earlier thread

 

I feel I should explicate challenge, I truly cannot imagine having a relationship with a woman who was not an autonomous individual, who equally knew I am. What are strengths in one area are weaknesses in another.

I cannot imagine a better mutual relationship than one where the 'other' has 'spirit'.

Above all I admire authenticity, and those who seek it, and let's face it, I'm not alone.

 

Yep, I'll take two (((hugs))) (((hugs))).

 

Shouldn't you be figuring out where he will be going that isn't your home? Sounds like you've got the right idea, just follow through. Good luck.

 

Ever consider moving to OZ? Seriously, get rid of the bum. Life is too short to suffer continual abuse and crap. Best of luck, Wenchie. Bazza

 

im sorry to hear about your probs...
youre in my prayers

 

im sorry to hear about your problems and i hope you get past them even tho i dont know you. you will be in my prayers and you get a big )))HUG((( from me

 

thanks guys. I love you all.

 

Also hug

I think must be the seasons for ending relationships.... Oh well, I think the freedom will do us all some good.

I was saying to my friend a last night, the grass is always greener, when you're in a relationship, you want freedom, when you're single you want a partner ASAP. The way I see it is you should forget about the negetives in whatever situation you are in.

I'm happy that I'm single.... I know I can go out evenings and not have to worry about my actions (too much )

Anyway, Hugs

 

I'd rather be single. I really don't base my happiness or self worth on whether or not i have 'someone' I mean for christ sake, i have a life. I just keep finding these arse holes that seem so nice that i give a chance, and getting sucked into a slow downward spiral to hell. And this last one? Completely killed and will or desire to have sex.

yeah. ME

So, i mean... whats the point? I'd rather stop putting my life on hold and live for me and noone else. well... no man. i always live for someone else. but SHES worth it...

 

((((((Wenchie))))))

Sex is over-rated
it is just pointless motion without the "E" . . . IMO

That. . IS. . .the meaning of life. . . .but that is only my opinion

some married persons are like that as well. . . .

 

boot him to the curb ASAP, if he doesnt have a job too bad life isnt fair. You dont need someone like that around and your child doesnt him around to set a bad example for her of what a real man should act like............oh yeah hugs and prayers

 

wenchie
you really need to keep a clear head now
from what i have read in the past you dont become upset without a good reason. but remember you have to live for you and not someone else ( daughter excluded)
i wish you the best.