arggg router stops me going on secure sites

hi, i have just installed a softouch wireless router and i am hving probs. accessing certain websites (secure) also msn and ares winmx etc. i have disabled the router firewall but i can not disable windows firewall as it is not under control panel options since i reinstalled windows xp i cant find windows firewall settings anymore. plz help also my son is connected to a laptop via this pc he cant get anything either. my e mail address is <snip> if u can help ty
i have tried installing the windows xp firewall disable program from this site but i get an error message.

 

Try turning it off in your services:

Go to Start button -> Run...
Type services.msc

Scroll down until you see...
Windows Firewall/Internet Connection Sharing (ICS)

Double click and select stop.

 

have done what you said couldnt find windows firewall but the other was there i clicked stop and tried to get on secure sites.. still nothing

 

What is the error you get when you try to go to a secure site? Here is a secure site to try. www.us.army.mil

 

error message is "this page cannot be found" check network connections
also cant log into msn p2p programs and all secure sites. nor msn my sons laptop via wireless router

The page cannot be displayed
The page you are looking for is currently unavailable. The Web site might be experiencing technical difficulties, or you may need to adjust your browser settings.

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Please try the following:

Click the Refresh button, or try again later.

If you typed the page address in the Address bar, make sure that it is spelled correctly.

To check your connection settings, click the Tools menu, and then click Internet Options. On the Connections tab, click Settings. The settings should match those provided by your local area network (LAN) administrator or Internet service provider (ISP).
If your Network Administrator has enabled it, Microsoft Windows can examine your network and automatically discover network connection settings.
If you would like Windows to try and discover them,
click Detect Network Settings
Some sites require 128-bit connection security. Click the Help menu and then click About Internet Explorer to determine what strength security you have installed.
If you are trying to reach a secure site, make sure your Security settings can support it. Click the Tools menu, and then click Internet Options. On the Advanced tab, scroll to the Security section and check settings for SSL 2.0, SSL 3.0, TLS 1.0, PCT 1.0.
Click the Back button to try another link.



Cannot find server or DNS Error
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