Deleted History. Can you help?

My husband cheated. Sad, but true. He really seems contrite, and I want this to be true. But, I need to be sure that there is no lying going on, and I just want to check once, but now he is deleting everything from history daily. I need to know whether to wade back in and trust. I don't want to waste my time.
History is gone now, but I now that doesn't mean the computer is clean.
You MGs have helped me so many times with my computer issues, can you help me now with my heart?
I am very embarrassed to have to type this. In 15 years together I never ever looked at his computer until one day when our daughter hurt herself, and he wasn't where he said he was. Then I found out that an affair had started, just a few weeks before. This was in February of this year.
Our daughter is going through health issues now (possible seizure disorder), and I just need to know that we're okay. I told him I would not look anymore, and haven't looked since Feb., but I just feel something is not quite "jake" once again. I need one more look. He's also using "private browsing" now.
What a terrible post to write.
Advice? help?
Thanks so much MG-ers.

 

If your partner is using "private browsing" and clearing out history, this suggests that it is likely that this is a secure delete and therefore you won't be able to "undelete" files or data from the computer used by your partner.

Secondly, any files you are likely to "recover" (say using an "undelete" utility from here: http://www.majorgeeks.com/page.php?id=20) is likely to alert that fact you are seeking reassurance by observing your partner's behaviour. This is because a) some files are recovered, b) a utility has been installed, etc. The consequence being an even more strained relationship.

Even worse, if a web cam or recording device is installed to record behaviour or asking your partner not to delete history or secure browsing so that you can observe the change in behaviour - then this is clearly not a good direction to go in either.

It seems that the family issues have taken a priority over the marital relationship and as a consequence suffered. A good course of action would be to seek a relationship counsellor to obtain the balance in all the relationships your family have. Also, this may ensure your partner is more involved in the family crisis and as a family unit assist in a more satisfactory resolution.