facebook blocks

i visit lots of FB pages with various levels of info locked, but occasionally i see one which had "send xxx a message" and "add as friend" missing. how do they do this?! i don't see it ANYWHERE in the privacy/security settings.

moreover, how does this make sense? i assume it means contact is limited to "friends", but unless you can send an "add" request, how do they ever get on the LIST?!

i always thought "send xxx a message" and "add as friend" were OUTSIDE the privacy options. guess not.

:confused

 

here's an example: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1848963048

how does one CONTACT such a person?

how did those "170 friends" get IN there to begin with?!

:confused

 

I'm on Facebook myself, but I have to admit to not running into that.

 

here's one w "add as friend" but no "send her a msg": http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000547722326

nor does the add button itself provide the usual "add a personal message..."

and i think i've seen "send her a msg" w/out "add as friend" on some other pages. well, at least in either of those 2 cases, there's SOME way to get the person's attn, but the link in my prior post had NEiTHER, right?

i mean, when u say uv never seen that before, are u indeed seeing it (last link) the same way i am?

i realize a block against me, personally, could be skewing the results. then again, these aren't people i know, so that seems unlikely.

i thought maybe MINORS...but a look at some other pages indicates that even they have "add" and "send msg" same as usual.

 

Link in post 2 shows Info page only. Dead end after that.

 

Types like you show links to in post 4, I won't even try to contact.
Have had some send me a friend request. When I go to the page they link, it says something about some naked pictures they have taken and need to register to view. I immediately block all requests from those senders.

 

naked pix?! good god, no. these are friends of a friend. not ones i know directly (hence, can't imagine any sort of "personal" block), but ones w common link re: classmates, college, etc. and they weren't ppl sending me "hey, there" emails either (yeah, i get those too, but)...these were people i plucked out of the friendlists of ppl i actually KNOW!!

good lord. what abt that last one led u to believe she was...um..."shady"?!

:confused

 

well, that explains ONE of the two examples, but what of the one without even "add as friend"?

and even for the add as friend example, why can't i add a MSG, like i did in the past? is it the case that this option disappears if they've turned u down in the past?

 

Can't be that.
I've never given those an invitation to be turned down.

 

huh? don't quite understand the second line there. meaning uv never given anyone a second chance, once they've rejected u once?

iv had someone reject me out of hand, then b/c of a MSG (saying "hey, it's me, so-and-so") accept me on a later request. this looks to be impossible now.

 

View attachment 141849
its to do with this page i think (that you can't add as friend or send a message etc) they're settings for each profile that you can find:
pivacy settings> basic directory Info, click 'view settings'.

For them to get friends, they would need to add you, not you add them. I have a few friends like this. If you're desperate to add them, send a message to a mutual friend that might pass on the request or speak to them in person if possible.

 

iv had someone reject me out of hand, then b/c of a MSG (saying "hey, it's me, so-and-so") accept me on a later request. this looks to be impossible now.

 

OK, i get it now. msgs are, like u said, impossible for such users (who have set msgs to "from friends only"). the add as friend option, otoh, will REAPPEAR if u have a mutual friend. that is, it is not the case that they must INITIATE the add; u just need to have some common link.

Googling on one's name usually comes UP with some of the mutual friends, so even if u DON'T know them, there's a good chance u can charm your way in thru a route like this. Not that the target person will ultimately "add" you, but if u get one of these other friends to do it, at least the "add" button will reappear.

So u don't have to quite "ask" said mutual friend -- as halo suggests -- but u do need to befriend them first.

And I'm not sure what youngboy's last post is all about. Isn't that what I said myself?!

:confused

 

I just want to say that, I hate when "friends of friends" friend request me on FB. Just because we have a mutual friend does not mean I want to be friends with someone I don't know or barely know or never talk to. With that said, the person who does not have a link to add as a friend or even to message, obviously feels the same way hence the strict privacy settings. I know many people who feel this way.

Like Halo said, If she is a close friend then ask her in person or if you have her email then email her and ask her to add you.


P.S- I wasn't attacking you and sorry if I sound a bit snarky.. it's late and well this is one thing that ticks me off a lot.

 

Will have to say that the "mutual friends" part is OK if, IF, you are playing some of the games there where success is judged by how many people are on your list.
I have many that are there that I have never seen and probably never will.
Much as things are here.Never met anyone from here in person, but like to think of everyone here as friends.

 

Ditto . . . not that I understand facebook all that much, but I do have my privacy settings high. My wife likes it - and has become addicted to Farmville via facebook. I tried it, but just can't get into it.

 

to Spad.

Am doing Farmville myself.
Could she use another neighbor?

 

?????
What is so funny?

 

Very simple question.
The amount of neighbors you have can control how far you advance in Farmville.
Also the types of items you can purchase and use.
The response was about to make me ..no, I won't go there.

 

this coming from used to be miss farmville herself :-D

 

anytime :-D

 

Wee, I'm only at level 44.
Still a ways to go to get to your level.
Never would have guessed that myself. Talk about "out of the blue."

 

I was just ribbing her :-D but in all honesty, MG really won't yield you a lot neighbors. If you really would like to add more your best option would be to go to Zynga's Farmville forum, they have their own "add me" section.

 

It was only suggested because Spad said his wife played.
And I DO check out the "Add Me" forums to fill out my Mafia Wars and Vampire Wars listings.
What can I say. Just a big kid at heart.

 

Relevant

I'm the Paranoid Privacy Protector among my Facebook friends. Shoot me a PM when you get ready to set up your account, and your daughter's, and I'll get you set up on all the basics.

EDIT:
Actually, you might want to get your Facebook account now, and learn the site. Unless you know the system better than her, she'll be the one with the power to do whatever she wants, and there will be absolutely nothing you can do stop her from connecting with whoever she wants to.

 

You can check on who they have listed as friends also.
Just go to their homepage, on the left side,go to Friends and click on "see all"

 

Facebook is, when you get right down to it, a community like any other. There are good people, bad people, there are traps and there are advantages, and as in every other community, it's up to the user to learn how to avoid the bad people and the traps, and get the most out of it.

The important thing is to keep in mind that it's public. Facebook is the poster girl for our lack of privacy in "the internet age".

It's also a ridiculously easy way for me to stay in touch with my friends and family in Sweden.

Just PM me when you have your account created. It will be much easier to walk you through the settings than trying to explain them when you can't look at them. I'll be on the laptop all day, and I have absolutely nothing planned until I have to be at work tomorrow.

 

Sweet. Send me a PM on here with your Facebook name, and I'll contact you on the site as soon as I see it.

EDIT:
And I should get an award of some kind for not making all the obvious jokes about your husband playing in the Women's British open... LOL

 

And who better than someone who is not about to share all their Facebook info with her... :innocent

 

I'm glad I closed my facebook account too,Its amazing how seriously people take adding friends and contacts,its as though its more real than real life,if you don't add them as a friend you may as well of murdered their cat.

And farmville? Don't get sucked into it,people ask you to become their neighbour so you can give them a free gift then 'eddie' :-D reminds you every day that your crops need watering.

Rant over :-D

 

No, not really. Facebook lets you set a user name that will be displayed instead if you prefer. It's a recent addition. You still have to give them your name when you sign up though, I think.

 

You do need to go occasionally to plow, sow seeds, harvest.
Not to mention taking care of the animals and trees.