Fellow Member Meandog critical condition

My brother John (meandog) has been a regular in here for over a year,
He got me coming here too, please say a prayer for him or hold him in your thoughts,
I know this is probably stupid, but he is very ill, and has been so for 10 days, I miss him so much. thanks for hearing me out.

 

Well, you didnt say much other than pray, dearest. Whats the matter with him? Let us console you and we'll definately send the vibage his way.

 

Well I dont know where to start, he is 50 years old and lost his job over a year ago,
His wife left him in Feb. because she was tired of being broke because he was on unemployment, his unemployment ran out in July, his house was put up for auction Monday,
he was told of this about 2 weeks ago, he started bleeding and was throwing up blood so we took him to the emergency room, he had so many stomach anurisms, the Doctors couldnt fix him, so they transferred him to a better hospital to do surgery and did a tips procedure, he went in to respiratory failure and they put him on life support, thats been his life since, he wont wake up, the poor man doesnt even know his house was sold, thank god he isnt homeless, we are moving his part of the stuff out of his house into dads house, hes just so sick, I'm afraid he has given up, he's had the weight of the world on his shoulders for so long,
the trouble is he is so giving he would give the shirt off his back to help some one out, thankyou for taking the time to hear me out.

 

Hillbillyhensley,

I am so sorry to hear about your brother. There's not many words we can say, but we will send up prayers for him, and for you and your family. At least you are taking good care of him. I hope you can spend some time talking to him, reading to him, or something. I have heard that that can really be a good thing.
Hang in there. Tell him how much you love him, and tell him he's got to get better.
Thank you for sharing with all of us, and please keep us updated.

BTW, what's his, and your, real names?

I'm Eric, and my wife, who hangs out here all the time, is Cindy. (Cindysnoopy)

We'll be praying for you.

Eric

 

I'm sorry to hear about your brother, I hope he'll get well soon.

 

man oh man.. truly sorry to hear about your brother. His wife leaves him because she is tired of being broke; so much for better or for worse. My wife could have a bottle cap to her name and I'd be right behind her.

You tell him Kodo says he has unfinished Geek business to tend to. All of us Geeks are pullin for him.

 

His real name is John Zitter, and mine is Ruth Hensley

 

Best wishes to him.

 

It's not and we will.

 

Not stupid at all, it is very sad and brings a lump to my throat. I hope he improves and gets well again.

 

It's been a really rough year for several around here. Not a stupid request at all. And thanks for sharing. Most times, if someone comes up missing, we never know why. Will definitely keep him and your family in my prayers. Let us know how things work out.

As Eric mentioned, reading, talking, sharing, with someone in a coma can indeed help. Been proven that external stimuli DO soak in, even if they don't appear to acknowledge it. Keep up the good fight.

 

I can vouche for that first hand. Was out cold for 48 hours. I knew exactly who was in the room and heard and understood every conversation. My eyes just wouldn't open. My body shut down and the only thing I had going was me noggin.

 

My thoughts are with you and your brother

 

you and your brother will be in my prayers .

 

I hope he gets well soon... nah, he will

 

My sinceare regards to your brother, I never knew of your brother but reading what has happened and what he has been through, leaves me in awe and shock!

All my hope and prayers are for your brother and yourself to be strong for him.

I am gob smacked at his wife, I had a girlfriend that was similiar in a way, I still love her and miss her, but luckily and walked out one morning after putting up with her deciet and mind (censored) as I call it, I vowed never to return, it took all my will power and love for her to do it, but I was feeling used, felt only one sided love, I mean the day before I walked out she instigated an argument between up, then she let out that she had been arking me up intenionally, becuase when I was upset and angry, she got turned on, when she let that out it hurt, becuase I love her, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, but the relationship wasnt healthy from her part, I found out she was running me down to her family and some friends, elaborating on us in a completely untrue sense, which I can only comprehend was for attentionn from people...

Gawd now I got the miss her blues..

I miss tamara wilkshire, sometimes I feel like tracking her down and just hold her for dear life and never let go, she is gorgouse, we lasred 8 months, if only it was 80 years

The reason I am elaborating on this, is becuase your brother is/was in the same boat, when you love someone, its hard to break away, even if they're kicking the living daylights out of you.... but reading what she has done to your brother, I can only thank god that I got out of my similar situation, just less deeper in, I wouldnt be so lucky and strong, It would destroy me instantly if me and tamara still had got married like we planned, only to loose her over fetishable un-loving pretences

I'm off to bed, I've just chucked a all day, nighter and moring'er, I am typing but my eyes are that blurred , I`ve fallen asleep a few times writing this.

Apologies if my explanation is over the place, I`ll fix it after a sleep

 

Visit often and speak to him, as Kodo said, he can hear you, tell him you love him and be strong for him. You will both get through this.

As far as the ex wife goes, I will keep my mouth shut, I have an ex and quite a bit of hatred towards her. I am biased in my opinion. Please keep us informed and God Bless.

 

As Eric said, our prayers are with all of you. Be sure to tell him that all of us here are MG are pulling for him.

 

He'll be in my thoughts, hope he gets better soon.
and it's not stupid to post something like this, thanks actually for doing so.

 

So very sorry. Please keep us posted on John's condition. Steve

 

Sorry also. Though I do not know him I bestow my best wishes upon thee.

 

I had the same thing with my first wife and I will end it there. . .

but my illness is not a severe does she even know? or did she just bail and not look back?
there could be more to the story, I am not sure. . .It sad enough already

I feel for your brother
and for you and the rest of his loved ones, if a prayer is all you need you have mine
if you need anything else just ask
I am still fairly new here at MG but I se that they pull together very well
and in a time af need they are here. we are not just screen names and ip's

again, you have me here in prayer

 

He has my prayers.

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. Many good thoughts and prayers will be with him from your friends here. Like Halo said, sometimes the body just shuts down to heal itself - we all hope for the best.

 

Any news? Let us know how things are, and check in every once in a while, when you can.


Eric

 

see below

 

This is really hard to put into words. I have been down and out before but never like this. It is true that when troubles come you learn who your friends are. I had a lot of surprises when I started reading this thread. I was not but barely alive when it was started. I want to thank my sister first because she is such a good friend to me. she is a lot more than family.
I have been having a few troubles finding a decent job that would let us be slow but keep what we have until things turned better. No such luck.
All I could find was a job for 6$an hour and couldn’t take it because I was making 10$ an hour on unemployment. So I cashed in my 401k to keep the house and car. We needed to live somewhere and I ALMOST HAD THE CAR PAID OFF.
on our 25th anniv she moved out and took the money with her. There were checks written in the checkbook but the bills were not paid..She then cleaned the food pantry out and took 200 pounds of meat out of the freezer.
Like a fool I started drinking a lot because I had a friend in the bottle. What a friend.
So in the last year I lost the home I had, the car, my dog( taken to punish me more ) all the 401 k,And then I found I am responsible for her 2500$ tax debt.
Things were looking real bad. My son went and found a part time job to help but it didn’t cover anything. (God bless him....He stayed there when he was needed.
Then I got sick. I had no insurance and no money. I had my dad take me to the local hospital. They looked at me and life lighted me to another hospital. That hospital sent me on a another ride across town to a building full of speciliast. They said I had lost almost 4 .5 ltrs of blood. I was blind and confused..Blood Pressure was 35/30.They knocked me out and that is the last I remember.I died on the table 5 times ( so I am told ) and could see them working on a body that looked like mine. I thought they were removing demons ( I don’t know why ).on the eighth day I finally woke up because I was hearing voices. I actually think it was friends and family praying for me.

So now I have a lot of troubles left but a lot of friends also. I didn’t realize it but I think I gave up on life.
So now I am back with a new chance and a better outlook on life.
AND YES I ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY ACTIONS AND HURTING MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS.
But I seem to be different now and I know something will happen for me and my son.
Again thanks for your thoughts and prayers,
And thank you hillbilly Hensley for being part of my life. I think you saved what I had left.
And thanks to all of the geeks who cared enough about someone one they didn’t know.
I will try to get to know everyone on the board a lot better.
(And I guarantee most folk will think I am strange
Well I am tired will be on tomorrow night if you have questions or just want to chat.
God bless

 

Glad to see your back meandog..... i guess i was slow, feel very pathetic in fact for not getting to read this thread earlier... anyway, like i say, glad your back, and remember you've always got friends here at geeks.... Chin up, and take each day as it comes, always remember, no matter how bad things seem, theres always someone that little bit worse off and nothing is ever as precious as life, if your alive u got it all, although it sometimes dont feel that way.
Take care,
Nicky

 

You have been, and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers, John.

Life aint exactly rosy for me either a.t.m. in many ways - enough said.

Take good care of yourself, John.


Regards....Phantom.

 

Glad to hear you're back with us! Yes, your sister sounds like a treasure. Hold onto that gal.

Several of us have gone through disastrous divorces, and while it can be pretty grim, for a depressingly long time, you WILL put your life back together. Take it one day at a time, and keep in mind that rebuilding a life in mid-life ain't fun, it is acheivable. (been there & done that. although without the almost dying part) Life can be good again.

Let us know what's going on, & if you need any advise, ask. AbbSue in particular has become an expert at finding/getting help in health related things from long personal experience, and we'll chip in where we can.

You're in my prayers.

 

i wish i had the words of wisdom that you require, but i don't. all i can say is to echo the fact that life itself is the most precious commodity we have. i don't know what your faith is, or if you have one, but for my part, even in my darkest hours (and believe me my friend, I've had a few!) god has reached into my life with friends and circumstances that have allowed me to continue on what ever path this is. i believe that each prayer is answered (although not always as expected). if you lay your life in the hands of god he will hold you close to him. "in god all things are possible." one of the awful truths to losing everything, is that you no longer have anything to lose. as a result of that truth i ended up here in Hawaii. I'm not suggesting you pack your bag and wonder at will, but that you grasp your new freedom and run with it. go back to school, explore your art, (wherever that may be) if you cant work for money, work for free. (theres nothing like volunteering to help others worse off than yourself to put life in perspective!) as for being strange, we are all strange my dear! life is bloody strange! the world we live in is strange! join the crowd. i will continue to pray for you. i ask that you do the same for me, although i have no needs at this point. (just remind god to take care of Laurie! lol) there are obviously a lot of people here that have experienced your pain. from that you can deduce that there is indeed a light at the end of every tunnel. just walk forward and you will see yours. the past cannot be replaced, regrets cannot alter it. wake each day determined to be the best person you can be that day, and give thanks each day for something in that day. in time you will find peace and joy. much aloha Laurie

 

Not much of a prayer, but I wish him well. I hope things work out for your family.

 

Thank you all for all your support, yes my brother is back, he's still pretty sick but we have him back and his family is going to let him know just how special he is in our family. I wish each and every one of you could get to know him in person like we know him, he is a good friend and brother. We still have some things to iron out but he can rest assured he wont be alone, lord knows he's been there for me. Well thanks again to you all and have a good one.

 

Glad you're back here Dog And your handle is a fib. You're one of the nicest people on this site
Bill

 

Thank you for sharing your story. It's rare to see someone take responsibility for one's actions, so it's obvious that you have alot on the ball. We all make mistakes, and stuff happens, but if we can learn from them, and grow through it, we become better for it.

I'm really glad you're doing okay, and I appreciate you taking the time to share your life with us.

I hope you are able to keep yourself from being bitter to your ex-wife. I know she did you wrong, but bitterness will only tear you up, it won't do anything to hurt her, and you end up losing even more. I just know how easy it would be to dwell on what she did, and become more angry, and more bitter, and I wanted to say "Don't go there".

That sister of yours seems to be a gem too. Looks like you're going to be okay.



Eric

 

Amazing!

I didn't take a look at this thread until now.

I'm glad to hear that you are recovering from what seems to be unimaginable pain in your life (both physical and emotional.)

I hope you make a full recovery in health and life.

 

Life can sometimes throw one for a loop. It takes a lot of energy to get back on track. I am glad your doing better and managed to put life into perspective. You will do fine this time around.

Good luck meandog. You now have life on your side.

 

to everyone here
thanx for caring
i am doing much better
week 2 of my second chance just ended
i will make it this time.