Female question - Sensative Area!

Hi Guys,

I have a personal question, that is basically for the Females on the board, who have had children, or dads who actually have a clear relationship with their partner, and knows stuff relating to health. Sorry just a little upset and worried.

Here goes, please do not take offense if you find this question a bit rude, I don't exactly know who else to ask as I need a sort of instant answer.

Kylie and I had a baby boy on the 12th - 7 - 2006, now since then we have actually maintened a pretty healthy sex life, I cannot complain thats for sure, and unlike I thought, I didn't change after the birth when it came to what happened at the hospital, and then staying in the mood when we got really affectionate with each other..

Anyway, kylie just informed me completely out of the blue that since Jonas was born in mid july, she has still not had her period! I am freaking out now, I am literally shaking from worry, aswell as upset and disappointed that I only find out now, and by pure chance!

I am worried there may be something wrong with her, we had a natural birth, although she had to be cut, which took 6 weeks to heal and the stiches to disolve, however about a fortnight ago she went to the toilet and came out white faced becuase there was blood down there, she thought it may be from here bowls as a once off, and when she went the next day everything was fine. and here comes the last BUT, since Jonas was born, every few days kylie complains of a sore back, and pains inside her stomach, sometimes they are mild/weak, othertimes she is nearly bent over in pain, this last week seems to of been good compared to the previous weeks, but now I am not too sure if I know for sure about any other pains or strains she may have had or getting, becuase I only just found out about her non-existant period.

I assumed we had a deeper relationship, we talk, but she doesn't talk about herself much, or complain about anything, she holds it in and compresses it, this has always been kylies personality, but holding back on that information I just got now, is a bit upsetting, or I am just looking into it too much, which I hope is the preffered outcome!

Anyway, can anyone tell me how long it takes for the females periods to return after childbirth, is it instant, does it take time, or something else, I am a bit worried, any information would be greatly appreciated!

Sincearly,

David

 

I don't know why anyone would be offended, but as i'm not a women, I have no idea. Why don't you contact a professional, or something?

But if you aren't prepared for that, then I hope someone has answers for you, and it all turns out just fine.

 

Hi joshcrick,

It is currently 8:27pm and I`d have to wait till tommorow morning to make an appointment, then wait about 3 days min, to get into say my local GP to ask the question, I am too worried right now to wait that long, I`ll be a wreck by the time I got the answer that way.

dave

 

If your partner is breast feeding their may be a longer time before her period returns. Can be up to 8 months apparently, and the minor bleeding is also somewhat normal for a few months afterwards. Found this link-
http://health.yahoo.com/topic/pregnancy/afterdelivery/article/healthwise/tp22262
but it hasn't got a hell of a lot of info so would still try and get her checked by a doc just to be sure.

 

Quote From The yourbabytoday.com website:

Q. I had a healthy baby boy a year ago and my periods still haven't returned. Is something wrong?

A. "It's common for your period to be delayed after pregnancy," says Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale University School of Medicine in New Haven, Connecticut. "For some women, menstruation starts up right away. For others, it can take years. I tell my patients to wait it out during breastfeeding plus six months." ​

Also try Googling this exact phrase: "period delayed after having a baby -control -pill" (excluding the quotes)
Note: Tons of "related" search results on this topic via that search phrase. All the ones I clicked on say not to worry! Hope this helps!

Good Luck!

 

If your worried, see a doctor to be safe, and to give you peace of mind. However my wife went 3 months with our first, and about 2.2 with the second!
Dont stress.... she says this is normal and who am i, to argue?

Cute bubz too!!

 

As a Doc who delivered thousands ---- every woman is different as to how long it takes to resume "normal" menses. Especially if she breastfeeds. You can also NOT rely on breastfeeding to help re: birth control either. I have had many patients get pregnant while nursing a small baby without ever having a period.

If she has been depressed or blue, that can also mess up her period.

I definitely recommend she see her doc because of the bleeding and pains you described. They could mean a uterine or bladder/kidney infection.

Get her to go in ASAP, just to be safe. Be extra caring, loving and attentive right now. It will help her immensely.

Enjoy that little rug scratcher while it is too small to fight back.

 

Dave,
There is some good advice from posters here mate.
As a father of four, I can empathise with the concern you have for your wife.
Please don't worry unduly.
My wife never had a period between our 2nd and our 3rd, she was breast feeding the whole time, but then bang, another one on the way.
Like the doc said, the fact she is having pain etc means she needs to be sussed out by her Gyno or GP in the least, but really don't be too worried about the period (or lack thereof) especially if she is breastfeeding. If she isn't, well the women take varying amounts of time to get their cycle back, some no time, some a long time.
Handsome kid btw.

Take care,
Dave C

 

GK Is the expert, and he hit on most of the topics I know about from 16 years in the medical field (albeit emergency medicine). Definately get her to the Dr. The pain is more concerning to me thanthe delayed cycle. If it is getting that bad, she should definately have a check up to be onthe safe side. Also, as mentioned earlier, Post Partum Depression can play a major role in the cyle. It is well known that Women can loose their cycle due to stress, emotional trauma (including childbirth, not that I know how that constitutes emotional trauma) and diet changes. Again, we are not her doc and that is who is best qualified to let you both know what is up.

Hope everything works out best.

Calltaker

 

Guys, I cannot express how I appreciate all the quick help, by the time I read the last reply, I felt relieved, I am still worried, but more relaxed about it, I had no idea about all this stuff, which is why I thought I'd ask you guys.

I`ll ring the docs in the morning and take her in for a checkup to be certain, I apologise about the slight ignorance in my original post, I was just upset and worried, It was laid out to me at a drop of the hat, I ask every day, "You alright love", "How do you feel today lovey", etc But was told only tonight about this problem, we've had a little pow wow, Kylie explained why she didn't want to worry me about it, I just wished she didn't always consider me.

Regarding breast feeding, Kylie had to stop because Jonas wasn't getting fulfilled enough, he is a little guts, he downs 250ml of formula at a time.

Actually talking about feeding, virtually every time he has a feed, he is guaranteed to bring up a fair bit of it, we`ve had him checked out to make sure it wasn't a medical issue, thankfully that was removed. We were told to try another formula with Anti-Reflux, however after trying it he still brings some up, it varies however, sometimes its 20ml, other times its about 50ml, and a few times it appears he brings up the full 250ml, I`ve been observing him and I can only assume that he is drinking too quick, we burp him throughout the feeding, but the greedy sod will go into a ripper of a tantrum if the bottle isn't in his mouth at all possible times until his finished, are there any other methods to avoid vomiting, it doesn't phase him when he does bring up his meal, he doesn't cry or appear to get upset, we clean him and he just laughs back at us.

Again thanks for the help on the matter guys, I feel a lot better after all the information, I was worried it wasn't normal at all, its a relief to know it can take that long.

Kindest Regards,

David

 

Hey Luthius, sorry I wasn't about last night, but I'll add my 2c now, if that's ok.

My first son was the king of projectile vomiting, and it started at about 2 months. It worried me sick to begin with, but once I discovered this is just normal for some babies, I chilled a little. In fact, it became a joke that if you had a visitor that you really wanted to leave, you just fed my baby and pointed him in their general direction. He could get it a couple of feet across the room! Just make sure he gets bottled water too, so that he doesn't dehydrate

Kylie sounds like a very independent lady, and part of the reason she didn't mention anything beforehand is because she didn't want to worry you, or make a drama of something she isn't so worried about. After all, she only recently gave birth, so naturally her primary concern will be to your baby, and herself second. That's how mothering works It's so sweet that you are concerned about her.

As others have said, each birth is different, even each birth to the same woman, and the after effects are also different. It takes the body a good year to settle back down, and even longer if breast feeding. I had a friend who did not have her period for 2 years as she breastfed her son. Also when she wa carrying your baby, the pelvic region takes a lot of stretching and strain, and it can cause impications on the spine, lower back and bowels. Sometimes it takes a few months for these to settle down too. Also during the actual birth and all that pushing, it can cause pressure on the bowel if the pushing wasn;t directed solely to the birth canal, and this could leave tenderness and soreness, whch may cause a little bleeding, whcih will settle down.

Basically, I agree with others. Encourage her to get checked out at the doctors, just for peace of mind. Let us know how you get on

 

Thanks for the kind words Lev, I made an appointment today and go in monday @ 9.20am, So when we get back I will let you know what happens.

About 3 hours ago though, she got them! I was just explaining to her about what you guys told me, then 10 mins later they arrived, hehe its a massive relief!

 

Well, now you know why she had so much pain.......CRAMPS!!!!!