Me vs. Vanishing Typing Cursor on AOL. GRRR!!

Ok, I have been having this problem for a month or more...

I am sitting in a Video game chat on AOL typing to my friends and my typing cursor disappears, which makes me stop typing. I then have to reclick the text box in order to start typing again... (Yes, I still look at my hands when I type )

This also happens when I use the AOL browser (intergrated IE), if I am in a chatroom (havent tried when I wasnt in a chat) and I am typing on message boards.. like this one... the cursor for typing will vainsh. But it wont vanish if I use the external IE program.

I think I have it narrowed down to an ad within the game chatroom. It is ran on Macromedia Flash Player, when it reloads or gets to the Loop spot... my cursor disappears. I cant seem to disable the ad at all... and I dont know if I can uninstall Flash to get it to stop.

I have talked to one person on AOL live Help about it and she told me several things to try: Lowering hardware acceleration, rebuilding the AOL adapter and using some sort of tech thing on the AOL CD... nothing worked.

I have tried the WinXP Powertools option to stop other items from stealing focus from the window I am on, but that doesnt work either.

My cursor has vanished about 50 times while I have been typing this...

Please help me if you can...

Thanks,
Pent.