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Hey it is SMILES from way back in 2003... how is everyone doing??? hit me up i miss u all!!!!

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COME ON!!!!!!!!!

 

Wow, you were way before my time. Welcome back anyway. :dancer

I love the second quote in your signature. Matter of fact, I think I might be living my life by it. :clap

 

Hey smiles, good to see you again. Wassup? How's the family? :cool

 

Hello and welcome back :wave

 

Smiles! Long time no see, am glad you came back home.

Jack

 

Welcome Back Smiles!

 

Wow it's been a while!

 

Good to see you again,smiles.I think I remember your piccy.:wave

 

Thank you for all the welcome backs... and HELLO to the newer ones... life with me isnt too well... I got married and now i am getting divorced. I left but realized i made a mistake and after 6 weeks cam back and he told me he wanted a divorce so now I am living with my 77 yr old grams and 5 yr old son with no job and wanting to no go on but i know i have to for my son. i find myself crying day in and day out... nothing i do matters and nothing i do helps ... i cane back here trying to find someone that i can talk to .. and maybe help me figure out how i am sup to go on without my soulmate.

 

Hi smiles.
I became a member in Jan 2007 so a while after you.
That feeling of not wanting to go on has come to me on many occasions and can be very difficult to handle.
What i try to do is think of the good thing that have happened in my life and bypass the bad ones,It takes determination to keep going when you are at the bottom of a deep depression but you have one great thing going for you and that is your son so focus on him and put the bad things to the back of your mind.

I also opened my heart to members here in 2007 the response and support i received was wonderful,we have some very compassionate folk on here who are always ready with a good word or soothing comment so any time you feel a bit low jump in here and get some friendly comments.

 

Glad to see you came back.

I haven't had a chance to meet you so hi :-D

 

Thanks Bill, times are hard! But I am trying to think pos. I know that that is the thing to do! He is my reason for life. and i have to live and go on for him.

 

Hey Smiles,Way before me but what the heck still from the same Great place And you are another reason I say "You may leave MG's but you Never stay away for good.
"My Aunt told me something when ever I lost my boy friend when I was younger and I remembered it when I went through my divorce, "There are more fish in the sea, just take your time and reel them in real slow until you get a good look and if it looks right snap that line and hook him and start reeling before they know what's hit them. but if it isn't the right one through it back and cast out again." It took 3 castings and several years of time spent joyfully with my two children whom I have bonded very closely too, before I finally caught the big one.Some are great fishers and some like my self are a little slow, but you will find joy and happiness in your life again. It may not be exactly what you thought but it will be there. Think of it as his loss and your gain,as you have the son to grow with and a Grams to help you.Be happy for yourself and your son and follow through with what your MG name says.

 

Hello smiles, I haven't met you until now, but just wanted you to know, yeah, life isn't fair, but you just get up and take one day at a time, and even tho things are rough now, you have that beautiful son who needs you, and you need him, so hang in there .. I am glad you are back, would like to know more about ya.

haven't you ever heard about the rainbow after the storm? Yeah, there is one, just take your time..
PS: I like your avatar!

 

BIGTRUCKS - thank you for those kind words. I will remember them always. My grandmother told me pretty much the same thing... "there are more fish in the sea shotsy....just make sure next time...cast a good one...make sure you got good bate ready to be snatched...and just before they think they got it...you get them!" lol she is 77 and german! gotta love her! I hope I will find happiness again!

is it wrong of me to not be as sad as i thought id be about the signing tomorrow? why arent I more upset? im upset that im not more upset! im actually kinda relieved... hmm.... You can't start a new "book" ...without reading the last chapter of the book you were already reading!...

TEECEE - Nice to meet you... I am trying to take it one minute at a time... i have days where I am like "To hell with him"..."screw him"...."his loss" ..."one mans trash is another mans treasure" ......but then I have days where Im like "i cant do this" etc... but more days of F YEAH I DESERVE BETTER.... I will deff smile alot more... and I am looking for that rainbow.... cant wait for it to show up!... Ps: I like my avatar too ;-)
Pss: what would u like to know about me? ask away!

 

What's up

 

nothing much at all... just myspace'n & Facebook'n it... you??

 

Hi Smiles! YOU GO GIRL! Just take your time, and one minute at a time if that is what you need, because honey, there is a rainbow out there somewhere for you. I met mine 34 years ago, and he was booted out by an ungrateful u-hum.....:innocent......... and we've been happily married for over 33 years.. I have nothing to complain about either.. He was in YOUR shoes.. Not any more! Hang in there!

What do I want to know? You already answered that

 

I came in long after you, but I think we touched base a few times.

Enjoy the boy, they grow up fast. I've always figured kids are Gods answer to boredom.

 

Hey Smiles, no thank yous required. When I left mine in "77" (yeah that long)my emotions were spinning big time until some one told me that I didn't miss him but I was use to a physical body to help out on occasions. in other words he became more of an object near the end then he was a husband/father and that he was more of a bad habit that I hung around with then anything. Once I realized this the only time he came up is when the children spoke of him and trust me that was not often. There was something that caused you to leave in the first place or other wise you would have stayed and persevered with it or tried to work it out. Me, I had 3 things that ran me off;1.HE Ignored the children constantly. Do what you want to me but don't hurt the children. 2.Physical abuse on me; A body can only take so much and when you start seeing stars during a fight it's time to pack it and leave. 3. Mental stress; I could not focus clear enough to do right by my children worrying whether he was going to harm them next or kill me leaving my children parent-less(he sure wouldn't get them)
As my mom would tell me" Never change a good mind" meaning; If you have a feeling that something should be a certain way then stay with that thought and follow through. Some call it instinct,gut feelings or just common sense. It hasworked for me. As TC mentioned

What are your plans now? If you don't mind me asking? I had lots of them. still working on some, believe or not:-o:-D

 

And, Bigtrucks has that right!

also, abuse. Abuse of ANYkind is intolerable, not for you or your child.. Don't fall into that trap. sounds like BT has been that route too. I was raised in it, so I know it from the child's standpoint... Hang in there, gal, and stick to your guns! :guns You are worth a whole lot more than he gave you credit for.. We are here for ya too :grouphug

 

Hey there Smiles. Glad you're baring up okay, most of the time, anyway. I've "walked the walk", (still am at times), so I know it's not easy.

I thought I got lucky and made the right choice first time up, but it hasn't turned out that way, unfortunately. My wife sustained considerable injuries, including brain damage by a drunken driver not long after we were married. I did the right thing and cared by her and stuck by her over the years. Two children and twenty five years later, I came home from work one day, and she had decided she would supposedly get a better deal elsewhere. I haven't seen her or my kids since. Of course she couldn't handle the kids by herself either, so they ended up split up, too.

That was over seven and a half years ago. Like physical injuries, there are some wounds that heal, some partly, and some scar forever. But life goes on and we have to work with what we have and build up on that. All I can say is don't let anyone or anything compromise your own personal integrity and focus on the positive, including positive people and relationships. Easy to give 'lip-service' and not always easy to do, I know.

Life does gradually get worthwhile again, and you do have your son to share in his growth and development, which is a huge plus, i.m.o. Also, as you no doubt know by now, you don't have carry the burden alone. I tried to for years and it was an epic fail. Despite the disappointments and adversities in life, there are still a lot of decent people and joy out there somewhere, (or should I say everywhere) if we just let it, or in some cases, make it happen.

Hope this helps just a little. Take care.

 

Phantom has a good point, as do the others. Hang in there ---- it will all sort itself out for you. Just force yourself to be patient.
I hung (stupidly) around in a virtually loveless first marriage for 27 long years, until I woke up one morning and decided to do something about my dismal situation. After I divorced, I met and married the love of my life, SHEWHOMUSTBEOBEYED, and all has proven worth the wait. We are constantly together.
It will happen for you. Just wait and see. Good things happen to good people.
And you very much sound like good people.

 

wow.. i feel like you all have known me for years! and we are sitting here drinking tea! lol.. everyone here is so kind. TEECEE you are awesome! Thank you... I will never change a good mind haha.. that is awesome! Phantom! I would love u chat with you one day! lol Gens- thank you I hope I find a true love one day!

I have some good news... I got a job.. its a seasonal job right now but could be perm. YAY! It's at a game store... GameStop! I love it and I am good at it!
I wish some of u lived closer to me! Id love to meet you!

 

Hi Smiles, I’m very new here but having just read your thread and the replies, The first thing I have to do is to thank you and the others who have laid out chapters of their lives for all to share. The reason I’m thanking you is, in the past I was guilty of making, what I thought were smart remarks about the fair sex, I was put in to place by one or two people, I hadn’t meant to hurt or upset, but as I said earlier, after reading the replies I hadn’t realized there was so much hurt in peoples lives.
Secondly, you don’t need to try and catch someone, YOU’RE THE PRIZE.