A question

im an idiot. i broke up with my girlfriend a while back because i am an idiot. what is the best way to get an ex-girlfriend to go out with you again?

 

Try not being an idiot. :-D

Be yourself and see if she comes around to you, don't force the issue.

 

Unless youre an idiot

 

All you can eat buffet.

 

Grovel. Start by telling her that breaking up with her was a huge mistake and you only did it because you're an idiot.

 

one of many aim conversations (this is from yesterday):

edit: i just IMed her this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ObG48PZHU2k

 

I don't know her or you well enough to advice on specific details. Hurt feelings need time to heal, and the trust that the pain destroyed will need to be rebuilt. It's not a quick process, or an easy one, and everyone deals with it their own way. Generally, the pain needs to subside before forgiveness becomes an option... give it time.

 

Tell her all or nothing & start ignoring her. No more AIM. You'd rather talk in person, so she can see you're sincere. You're young, plenty of time. Don't put more into others than you can afford for yourself.

 

All you can do is hope - women are fickle.

 

a bat, some rope and duct tape might do the trick.. LOL

Seriously, just talk to her, apologize, but, dont force the issue of getting back together, court her all over again, from the beggining.

 

if it was a serious breach of trust, you need to commit to earning her trust again. AND, make sure you NEVER break that trust again. buying "things," making any kind of excuse, just playing a song, are not the things you need to mend that breach. you need to look at yourself honestly then have an honest discussion with her. IMing is NOT the way to go, IMHO. if she won't meet with you, email her or write an actual letter.

if it was a simple mistake, and she won't forgive you, she may not be equipped to.

i don't know either of you, or what ages you are, so i can't comment, exactly on what each of you might consider the difference between a serious breach of trust and a simple mistake. some females, of a certain age, may consider forgetting an anniversary/occasion a serious breach of trust. it's not, but SHE may think it is. some females may have an exhorbitant amount of "requirements" (never, ever forgetting to call, never, ever forgetting any of what SHE constitutes an "anniversary," etc.). you're on your own, there. no way for you to avoid never, ever making a simple human mistake.

the younger/less mature you are, the more serious simple mistakes may be to one, or both of you. telling someone "don't sweat the small stuff" only works if the "someone" has a clear grasp of what small stuff really is.

the big stuff is: treating yourself and others with respect, not expecting someone to fill some hole in your life that you can't do yourself and anything that involves over-indulgence, on a regular basis, of any mind/behavior altering substance (alcohol, etc.) that may cause you to do anything you wouldn't do sober.

you also need to know what YOU want & expect and make sure it's not over the top. look at why you broke up with her, honestly, and deal with that, with her. just make sure you don't involve the word "fault" that's a deal killer, dude.

 

Unless she is the possessive,stalking type that refuses to let go.:confused
THEN you are OK or in some very deep doo-doo.:cry

 

Start following her around and video tape everything she does,build up a large catalogue of her daily movements and show it to her to prove your love,take photos of her at places then photoshop yourself into the picture to show her how good you look together.

 

Sir, your 14, by the time your in your 20's your going to be saying what Jon Gosslin did, "I'm 28 and have have 8 kids" :cry:cry:cry

 

to Rikky
Wouldn't that be stalking???

 

I think hrlow2 is correct here, folks! Sounds more like stalking to me too, Rikky. Best to just move on, zDawg32, you sure don't want to end up like "Jon Gosslin"!!! :cry:cry:cry Besides, by the time you are OLD ENOUGH to date rolleyes I am sure you will have at least 3 more girlfriends....

 

Pass.

 

Are ya playing chess now hrlow2? roflmao

@ TimW, good one! roflmao

 

dawg, after thinking about this a bit more, i really think you should just ask your mom. after all, she probably knows you the best, since she does your laundry

if you guys are close to getting married, and it's legal, you might ask your pastor/priest, too.

 

Too all new members:
Welcome to the short bus!

 

Get over it. Get over her. Move on. If you've screwed up once, she's probably just waiting for you to screw up again. Move on, start fresh.

 

@ LauraR...i'm thinking a new forum called Dear Bad Abbygeek. people could post their personal questions and "someone" could give out bad advice. tres jolie, n'est pas?LOL

 

i really like that idea.
if not, a subforum of the Lounge

 

nah, don't do that. i'll just create my own forum called Dear Cake. i'm up for it. i can give out some REALLY bad advice, and make it sound REALLY good, if i put my mind to it.

have people post real questions, let me give them "advice" then stand back and LMAO. kind of like the insult rooms on PalTalk.:-D haven't been there in years but it was a real trip, let me tell you.

 

Our own version of "The Jerry Springer Show"??

 

...Tastes like mud!uke

@ 'Freud's Forum'....ARRRGHH!:eek ...LOL

 

C'est la vie :zzz

 

As my aunt told me "Play the field while your young as you will have plenty of time later to get serious with one some one special".
Dawg if you really want her back and know her well enough you should know what her likes and dislikes are to win her back...if she really wants to come back. Who knows she may have been contemplating leaving you for some unknown reason. Just saying. There are plenty more fish in the sea if she turns you down. Good Luck on what ever you do.

 

Take Rikky's advice.


























note - you may end up answering to the police

 

Just take the proper precautions.

http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b214/Rikky_/71YouKnowWhatTheySayAboutGuyswithBi.jpg

:-D

I think I'd better take this moment to say I'm just joking,I'm not advocating anyone stalk anyone,I thought it would be obvious I was joking but by some of the responses I guess not so.

 

WOW! I want one of them for my Canon. :-D

Rikky, anyone who knows you knows you weren't trying to tell Dawg to "stalk"rolleyes but it was a good idea to let the rest know it wasn't your intentions.LOL

 

DISCLAIMER:
Use your head before following anyone on MG's advice.
(adspecially Rikky's)

 

He's learning. He's finally learning.

roflmao

 

Oh, bah. zDawg was never a baby. :-D

 

It took him long enough.:-D

 

Fixed.





Sorry couldn't help myself LOL

 

Or better yet just block me :-D Definitely on girls and relationship advice though I've been single for years :-D

We're men though we shouldn't do relationship advice,we just make fun that you have no girlfriend then carry on insulting each other.

 

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what, smileys don't parse anymore?