getting away frm parents help plz

hey guys. heres a littl about me

i am 14,
i have 4.0 GPA
i do very wel on tests

Couple days ago, i got some results back from a test. It was the ISEE.. i didn't study for it at all.

I did really bad on that test. Now my parents are banning me from the outside world. they dont want me to have friends, not to call anyone, not to talk to anyone. just basicly take my Social Life away. Also they do not see that i am doing so well in school. Even though they see my report cards. what they are doing is now llocking me in my room for the whole day so i ll be forced to study and not able to talk to anyone.remember they dont want me to have any friends what so ever. well what should i do.... one of my old teachers from like 2 years ago in history class said that u could get a declaration of indepencde at age 14 and leave ur parents. i was thinking about doing that then getting adpotd by some other parents that will actually be able to respct me. my current parents give shit about me. wht should i do guys?

 

Mirroring what Star said, they have whats best for you in mind.

A spat should not warrant new parents anyway, even in this day and age.

It doesn't work that way, either.

And remember, it can always be worse.

http://forums.majorgeeks.com/showthread.php?t=54305

What if those people ended up as your foster parents?

 

It's called emancipation. You don't get adopted by someone else, you get legally declared an adult provided you are 16 or older. You would have to get a job, a place to live, food, utilities, and everything your evil parents do for you now. If you want your parents' respect, it will take more than a punk attitude to earn it.

 

Yeah, I think it would be a little easier to just be a good lad and do what Mom and Dad want and concentrate on studying for a while. Star's right the net and your social life can wait. I'm sure your parents love you, or they wouldn't be so concerned about your education.

Frustration is understandable, but changing your family, and screwing up you and your family's life is not a solution, it's a disaster. Whatever Teacher made those suggestions to you is very wrong, and very irresponsible. The type that misguides the vulnerable, and destroys families. I've had the emormous displeasure of dealing with those types before.

 

alright thanks guys. but 1 more thing. how do i tell me friends that they arn't alowd to call me and stuff like that. cause too many of them

guess i ll just tell em whn i see em

thanks a lot guys. i ll be back later on thanks for all ur help agian

 

Ryuduo, my oldest daughter stumbled in grade 9 and was doing quite badly. Too much socializing in school and not getting the work done in school. Rather than grounding her and confining her to her room, we gave her a choice of coming home right after school and doing her homework, or staying home after supper to do the same. This way she could pick the time depending on her social calender and she couldn't blame us for missing whatever was going on. It worked. the grades came right back up. Maybe suggest this to your parents. Also dumping your parents may seem like a good idea now, but unless they are really horrible people you'd hate it in 10 years.

 

Ryoduo--

Check out the thread on "monster parents" in this forum, then rethink your feelings

 

Just tell your friends the truth. That you have to knuckle down and study for a while. The true fiends will still be there when your grades are up to scratch.

Just get a wckedly high mark next time, and prove to your parents, and more importantly, to yourself that you can do it. Good luck.

 

You should rebel against your parents. Tell them you'll drop out of school if they threaten you with their BS! They sound like they're a little anal, no? LOL

 

No, don't do that.

Actually your parents sound like they have your best interests at heart, even if they are a little heavy handed. As the father of two daughters, five and seven years older than you, I can tell you it's a scary place to be.

Especially if you have a 4.0GPA. (So did mine)

Your folks can see great things in your future, but they know from experience how fragile it all is. The next three or four years might be the most important years of your life. Your whole future could be decided by the choices you make now. If you have the right attitude, I'm sure your parents will see that a social life is not going to affect your schooling.

 

thank u very much guys. i will take the wise responces that u have given me.

i ll be back later

i ll miss yall

 

that's idiotic, and these adults are right!!! my dad is cracking down on me about responsibility, but i will get over it.....and that's just the way it is...in the teen world

 

You are very fortunate to have parents like that, you should go downstairs and Thank them.

Steve

 

Hang in there, and DON'T LET THIS GET YOU DOWN.
You can buckle down and win their favour, no problem, you'll see.
The perspective that a young person has on things can be faulty. This will all work out if you will just BE COOL and don't do anything stupid or rash. Just stay put. Its WAY better that way.

This will be a minor memory for you soon enough. It will blow over. Just go along, and comply, you'll see.



Robert

 

Well,

My daughter already gave her 2 cents, so here's mine.

I am not an unreasonable parent, but as a parent - there are certain things you have to be firm on.

Regardless of if your children like it or not - you have a responsibility to your children to do what is best for them.

As I said, I am not unreasonable. If you believe that you can care for yourself at 14, or finding complete strangers that will love and care for you like your parents have - then I would suggest this first.

Approach your parents.

Don't wait for them to talk to you, go talk to them.

If you have a well thought out idea of what caused the problem, how it can be prevented in the future, and another idea that would satisfy all of you.

Then, you might be surprised how receptive to your ideas they might be.

Put yourself in their shoes. You have an intellegent child with a promising future, and then out of nowhere - they fail a very important test.

How would you feel? Would you feel responsible? Would you get scared that if you don't take any action, that your son would throw away a promising future?

I think you might.

Compose yourself. Take their feelings into account, and try and provide a mature solution that would satisfy both.

It just might work .

All the best,

LAIGo .......... Sr.

 

Well, assuming that there isn't anything you aren't telling us, I'd say it would be best to go along with what they want and work hard on school again.

I've been exactly where you are now, except my parents never grounded me. I got a social life in high school and put it before my grades, and next thing I knew, I was getting Cs and a 60 in botany.

It was around my junior year that I figured out that my future meant more than social actives. From that point on I worked as hard as I could to make up for the 2 years I wasted.

I'm on my second year of going for an engineer major, and I'm still paying for those two years I wasted. You never know when those things you were supposed to learn will pop back up while you're on your way to make something of yourself. In college they expect you to know everything from high school 100%


I don't know what sort of relationship you have with your folks, and honestly it doesn't matter when it comes to doing well in school. You should want to do well for yourself. The things you learn now may help you later in whatever you decide to do later for a living. And even if they don't, you will have learned how to work hard to reach your goals. I promise you, working hard will be a skill you will have use of as long as you live. Being able to work hard will be what gives you an advantage over everyone else in anything you go for in life.

Work hard at school, even if only to gain experience working hard. You have a good 70 more years, if not more, to be social. But you only have right now to live with your folks and be a kid.


P.S. don't yell or get loud with your parents. It only makes you look like a child. Because think about it, how many adults do you look up to, yell at each other to get what they want? Honestly?

P.S.S. The more you argue with them, the more you give them to remember. The more they remember, the longer it will before they forget what you are in trouble for.

 

Wise words indeed

I have been very impressed by this thread. I am a committed iconoclast with a son of 25 who I am very proud of. On the day he was born I stated that I was most concerned about the relationship I would have with my son when he was 30 and to start working towards that from day 1. You cannot lay down the law for 18 years and then suddenly turn round and say 'You're an autonomous individual now and I'm going to treat you differently'

Hello!

I can only offer you this thought from the little I've learned. When you are right you should stand up for yourself, (let Justice be done though the Heavens fall).

When you are most convinced you are right you should most assiduously examine your position.

Never compromise, never surrender; but choose your battles very very carefully