Hi, relationship?

I'm 16, and I really like this girl that I have been talking to for almost a year now. She says that we will eventually go out but she doesn't want to ruin our friendship. And she is still in love with her ex. And I was thinking of inviting her over soon and maybe try to make a move on her. I don't know whether to or not. And its really bugging me, I don't know whether to make a move, wait it out, or even what to tell her. All I know is that I really want to be with her, what should I do?

Please, I'm just asking, nobody flame this please. I need serious help.

 

Its been like 4 or 5 months. Yes, her ex doesn't want anything to do with her anymore but she still loves him.

idk, I guess I could just see what happens with her, if she comes over she is the kind of girl who would just sort of cuddle with you for no reason since she is in no relationship. And if she does, then maybe I could just work from there. Makes since. Thanks for your help too.

Anyone else's opinion?

 

Inviting her over to make a move on her sounds kinda hasty. You'd be best going out like bike riding or hiking, or to a movie. Just spend time with her but don't push her into anything. If she likes being around you you should pick up on it. If you think she does, try the hand hold. Even if she rejects that, it shouldn't damage your friendship. Don't wait forever though.

Also nobody is gonna flame you here.

 

noooo, lol. I meant to INVITE her over for a MOVIE, and see where it goes from there, which may or may not involve holding hands or cuddling. I wouldn't invite her over just to make a move on her.

 

Invite her to participate in some activity you can do together, preferably an activity you know she excels in and enjoys. (Supermarket, Library, Restaurant, Church) When it is appropriate let her know her feelings are very important to you and that you need to make her aware that you have feelings for her. Let her know that you are not in a rush either,(not looking yo hook up yet) and ask her if she would think about sharing more of her time with you as you are finding it increasingly difficult to hide your feelings for her. (You'll be talking) If she does not reciprocate your feelings for her let her know that you are still hoping for a closer relationship, but that her feelings are important to you and you will respect her feelings. Then give her time, continue showing her that your feelings are real by your actions as well as your words. Don't ever lose your cool with her, let her know that no matter what goes wrong, everything between her and yourself will be alright. A small present of jewelry or something you created yourself doesn't hurt either. Be a gentleman, open doors, always be ready to catch her if she falls, and use the words please and thank you often. Always remember that you are a man and she is a woman, your brains are wired differently, be patient, and remember building a strong relationship is hard work, but if you both tend it well, it is the most rewarding thing in life.
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A: You did say make a move......twice.

B: You are asking a bunch of GEEKS for help with girls.

C: You received advice from LesbianDopeheadsOnMopeds. (please no offense that name just about killed me though) Very unique and I like it.

D: If she does come over for a "movie" then she is probably thinking about the same as you.

I once tried the tactic of basically ignoring someone. They were upset over it and told me so. I then knew they liked me.
Your 16, these things can be talked out, but each relationship in life is unique. You never really know until it happens.

 

so now MGs offers dating advice too?!?! dang, this place IS amazing!

haha, anyways i was at a similar place with one of my friends a while back, actually it happened with 2 of my friends.

The first one didnt turn out so well, we were really good friends then I kinda fell for her. It went OK for a while then she got kinda distant and told me one day that it wasnt working out. She was a realy jerk after that and we never were really friends again after that.

The other one wasnt too bad actually. We were pretty much as good as friends as a guy and girl could be and then things kinda escalated and we went out for like...2 weeks but then broke up just because it was really weird since we were such good friends. She really liked me for a long time after that and then we kinda ummm...."hooked up" a few times after that? haha We considered trying it again but decided against it and we are still really good friends.

Its up to you what to do here but personally, I would advise against "making a move" or anything. If you think you are ready to take your relationship to the next level then you should be mature enough to talk about it with her. Find out how she feels (yeah it will be awkward but its gotta happen eventually if you're serious about her) and go from there. Good luck man, im rooting for ya! :highfive

LMAO! haha you do have a point...

 

Oh, and does anyone here have experience with long distance relationships? lol My girlfriend is going away for college this next year and I really REALLY need as much help as I can get here. MG lounge FTW!!!!

 

Thanks for everything guys :]

 

no prob, keep us updated, man!

 

Same problem here. My gf goes to uni this year (as do I). We are just gonna try our best to keep it together, and see what happens. You cannot predict the future, but you can make the effort to see eachother

 

When a girls says that to you just walk away.

 

Yep. Exactly! From the viewpoint of a girl, thats exactly what that means.... I've both said that and have had that said to me... its a nice way of saying i dont want to date you.. whether its right now or ever.... if you make a "move" you may just destroy your friendship (been there, done that).

You prepared for that? good luck in whatever you choose

 

Your never gonna get a chick with that rig in your sig,get a summer job or something and get your computer upgraded to some modern gear,make sure you get one of these 690g 1.52lbs of pure solid copper smack bang in the middle of the motherboard! When she see's it she'll start getting hot and sweaty and rubbing her neck, then make your move!

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Failing that I could lend you this T-shirt

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Dude, what always worked for me in a situation like that is to take here out to eat somewhere decent but not real expensive. Not Waffle House, IHOP is out too even though it's damn tasty. Back on track though. After you eat ask here what she wants to do, see a movie or something like that. When the nights pretty well over then get her alone and tell her the way you feel. Just don't make it corny cause chicks hate that. Say something like look I know we're friends and you're still hung up on your ex but I'm tired of hiding my feelings. I like you and that's never gonna change. You say you don't want to ruin our friendship and I don't either, but how do you know it will ruin it if we don't try? I've always been here for you and I always will so you don't have to worry about getting hurt. Just give us a try.

OH YEAH! say something like that, or sing Feel Like Makin' Love by Bad Company. That probably won't work but it'll be pretty damn funny.

Hope this helps!

 

Just knock her over the head and take whats yours. JOKING!!

In all fairness you most likely do not stand a chance. In my experience with women; when they say "I don't want to ruin our friendship." They mean, "I like you as a friend but I'm not interested in you at all as a boyfriend or lover."

Now I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule but that rule is pretty solid.

Now turn this around in your favor. She must have some other friends (girls) and there must be some cute ones. Remain good friends with this one and start working one of her girlfriends. One of three things will happen:

1. The girl you are working digs you because of her friend and you two hook up.
2. The girl doesn't like you at all and then you move on to the next.

and my favorite:
3. The girl you intitially wanted but she only wanted friendship so you started hitting on her friends realizes that she really wants you (she becomes jealous) and you get the hook up you wanted from the start.

All in all you need to learn how to talk to women and sell yourself. Selling yourself is key dude.

 

selling your self?? like your a avon catalog? Try BEING yourself. thats what girls like.

Girls dont like to be manipulated. Im sure you dont.
Its not wise to "start on her friend so she becomes jealous and wants to date you" because if that happens then its not an honest relationship (other wise she want to date you in the first place, hello!).

Alot of ppl (boys and girls) are very competitive, she may just want to "win" and when she does she lose interest because she didnt want to go out with him in the first place or she does really start to like him and then she'll find out(girls ALWAYS find out) that he was just messing with her friend to make her jealous and it will piss her off (1. because you used her friend and two you made her jealous to benefit YOU) and she'll never talk to you again. The choice is yours!!