Love....relationships....

Probably a bad move starting this thread and I can see it getting locked but I need to offload a few thoughts...

ARGH WOMEN!!!! Nothing meant to any of them here, they're all great, just this one is a difficult *#%$!!!!!

Shows no affection for me after 2 months, should I bother?!!?!?!?!

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Perhaps you`re trying too hard. If it`s going to happen it`ll happen. I understand your frustration, but a good relationship is like fine wine...don`t rush it...patience can be a virtue.

 

You tried just getting naked while she is in the bathroom ?

 

Please keep in mind the many members here are under the age of 18. This site is a business first and foremost, based in the US...promoting, advising or otherwise encouraging sexual activity with minors is against the law thus not allowed here.

Thanks for your understanding!

 

Lol, I won't go into great depth, if anyone wants to take the time (and effort to listen they can catch me on msn)

 

No problem discussing your relationship here...just can't get into the getting nekked side of it IF that is your issue. I will add this though...

WE want to talk to you for real!!...would love to give you a call sometime soon like we did goldy..it was a blast talking to him. If it's kewl with your parents PM me and we'll go from there setting up a time and date.

 

Hehe, you pay I'll talk for hours...

 

If you're in your teens then you and she are just learning human relationships and how to interact with each other. It is the one subject that never seems to be taught at school - how to form relationships, what to do in relationships, etc. - not just the physical side of thing but the emotional and mental side of things. I suspect that this is because you can do all the theory but not the practical and "practice makes perfect" as the saying goes.

Relationships are complex things and it is not something people can pick up in a few days. The emotional and mental make-up of people have a lot to do with a mixture of their upbringing and genetics. This then is reflected in how relationships are formed and behavioural habits that take place.

One of the mainstays of any relationship is communication - not just the physical or kinaesthetic kind but verbal, aural, smell - everything that affects senses. Note, telepathy is NOT a sense, you have to verbalise.

Now, you can go further and look at the human psyche, psychology and understand theories such as those propounded by Freud, Jung, Myers-Briggs and Neural Linguistic Programming.

In your situation you have to push forward in communication and establish that rapport to broaden the emotions that you both wish to have.

 

Woohoo...never mind the "*#%$" Mcadam...you have it sussed now! A date with Abbysue......errrr....ummm....and Star!

Seriously though, we know nothing of this young lady, but a thought occurred to me. Maybe she, for whatever reason, has difficulties expressing affection (of any sort) ?? Maybe this is the discussion you guys need to be having? Only you know

 

most of the time it is a comunication gap. my wife and i each do our own thing (shes addicted to pogo) but we set aside time for us. its only 2 months in you guys need to learn eachothers little quirks.the new glamour wears off and reality shines through you just have to decide if reality is worth it.

just my opinion since all women are different

 

It's not worth it. Be a hermit; it's not only easier, but much cheaper.

 

My now husband and I dated for 4 months before we even held hands. There were a few kisses on the cheek prior to this and a few hugs, but mostly not. And I am a woman worth having (bring home excellent money, hot dinner on table each night, clean house, etc), had nothing to do with not sharing or giving affection, had more to do with not wanting that part of a relationship if it was one that was not leading anywhere.

It's been two months and the two of you are still enjoying each other's company/companionship? You still return her calls and messages? She does the same for you? You still look forward to seeing her and hearing her voice and she feels the same about you? If you answered yes to those questions, then you should continue to pursue the relationship. A relationship that is built on a solid foundation will last longer and become much deeper the longer you are with each other than one that jumps the gun, so to speak.

I hope my wording is appropriate for all audiences, if not, please delete what needs to go and my apologies.

 

Perfectly appropriate, and perfectly said.

At 17-18, most find it hard to concentrate on much besides the physical, but the physical aspects of a relationship are just the icing on the cake, NOT the cake itself.

 

True, but it's prudent to make sure you like the icing before buying the cake, too.

 

Icing is nice, but it's not the most important part. Too many people buy a fancy frosting, only to find out that what's underneath is terrible. And if you're talking about "buying", as in marriage, keep in mind that the icing isn't forever. Age, illness, injury, or simply letting oneself go to pot WILL eventually ruin that "icing". Love endures, lust is temporary.

From someone much smarter than me:

 

I've never maintained that it was the most important part. But it is *an* important part. Also, lust is fun.

 

No doubt, and the icing on a cake makes it taste better. Just make sure you're not getting icing on a cardboard cake.

 

ahhhh.. Robert A. Heinlein quotes. Good for any occassion.
Is Charles Manson still kickin'?
Do you both at least enjoy eachother's company?
If you can't talk for 6 hours at a time about trivial matters,
maybe it is not the time for affection.

does anyone else find this smiley a bit disconcerting?

 

Very sorry its just that is the way i deal with my problems.
Wont happen again.

 

That's something only you answer. You don't want to turn your back on someone who may care about you, but you don't want to be just 'crying into the wind', either.

Best thing, i.m.h.o., is to just straight out ask her (tactfully) what the score is here. Being (reasonably) direct will get you an answer one way, or the other.

All women are difficult at some time or another, i.m.o. So are men. Heck, I'm difficult at times!

As to wether it is worth it - you won't know until you ask.

I knew and loved a woman for 24 years, and thought I knew her. Guess I was wrong. I’ve been wrong in many things in life. You never can tell.

Life may be box of chocolates (Forrest Gump), but you just never know when you’re going to hit a hard centre. (Aint that deep).

Gone off cakes. Too many times I have thought it was an Angel Food cake, when all it really was, was hard-tack.

 

Follow your heart . . . go with your desire . . . Just always be true to yourself . . . Bear in mind that desire may be very temporary . . . desire is the cheapest of all emotions . . . we all have that . . . the lucky have desire Part II

 

Thanks to you guys, I now I have a craving for cake, argh!!!!

I'm gonna have a chat in abit, I've only just woken up (yes it's midday, point??!!!)
Time for breakfast....then brunch....then lunch...then snacks....food is also an important part to any relationship

And yes that smiley is quite erm.....strange???