parent troubles!

hey all

I was wondering if anyone has any advice for me.
I'm currently dating a girl from school who is 15, but her parents say she can't date until she's 16. now this is a problem as we can't do anything out side of school. mainly because she doesn't want her parents to find out about us and get mad.

but I really wanna see her outside of school, and we don't know how to go about it. we tried saying that we are only friends and she asked her parents if she could come over tonight and they said no because they don't even know who i or my family is and they are scared something will happen to her

ive thought about calling there and talking to her [parents but i don't think it'll work

i'm thinking about going to her place and meeting the folks and everything but i'm not sure if it will help

this is were all you people come into play. I'm hoping maybe one of you will have a similar situation and can tell me what you did. or if you are a parent and have a duaghter please tell me what you would expect me to do to earn your respect and trust.

thanks for taking the time to read this and i hope someone can help

all coments/suggestions will be a apreciated

 

I am the father of two girls, both well past 15 now. I don't think I would have been confortable with them dating at 15. If the folks say 16, then respect that. They will, in turn, respect you. By all means go over and visit, and by all means state your intentions.

It's not a long time. Really.

 

Harry, you're probably in a no-win situation.

No matter how nice a guy you are, you're an 18 year old male, and they'll be worried (to put it bluntly) about you trying to get into her pants. Most parents that set specific age for dating, won't change their minds, as that's a policy decision, not changeable by circumstances.

Tiptoeing around behind the parents backs isn't a good plan, as if they ever DO find out you two have been doing that, you'll never ever be welcome there, and her bedroom may suddenly have bars on the windows.

How long before she turns 16?

The only possible interim solution would be for her to see if the parents would be willing to allow some chaperoned activities in the interim, after getting to know YOU, and then live within those limits.

Otherwise, either wait it out or find another girl to date.

 

Oh boy, well first, does her daddy own a gun?(just kidding)

My first girlfriend was almost 15 when i was 17, her dad was very intimidating as a way of protecting her. We did a lot of sneaking around, looking back all the deception bothers me.
But you couldn't have told me that then.

But, your girls parents have set a time line according to what they think is right, and they are her parents, they have that right to do as they see fit, you need to respect that for a number of reasons.

If you guys end up in a long term relationship, you will have to deal with her parents for the length of it. You want to start off on the right foot, or it could up being a wedge in your relationship with her.

Another reason is your age, any accusations of 'inappropriate' behavior, true or not, can land you in jail.
Do you really want to be 'bubba's' girlfriend?

It won't be easy, but my opinion would be to take it slow.
Good luck buddy

 

my daughter is well past 16 now... but she had to wait until she was 16 also. she is also in the 5% of her friends that doesn't have a baby or 2 already. wait for her of if you can't wait ... find someone else. if you feel like pushing your luck with her parents... better look into the penalties of statutory ****, contributing to the deliquency of a minor, and there is a bunch of other charges an angered mom and dad can press, sneaking around their backs could also bring kidnapping charges... you are 18. you break the law, you go to the BIG HOUSE. my DH is a corrections officer... from what he tells me... it aint no summer vacation.

i agree with G.T.

 

well as it turns out her parents are sheltering her alot and she isn't even alowed to be friends with me. isn't that a kick in the teeth. i think i may just go to her house and meet the parents the main reason for them hating me before they know me is my age.
i went over to her street where her and her friends were and was talking to her in plain view of her mom starring out the window at me.
she went in the house to get a second pair of socks on ( it's really cold here in canada) and her mom said" who is he? what is he doing here? and Kim we already talked about this, we don't know him. so i just left i'm totally gonna follow all her parents rules and guidelines but i'm also gonna be her friend and try to get onto her parents good side.

it seems like it's only her mom that has a problem with all of this.
should she maybe talk to her dad and tell him we only wanna be friends?
then maybe he could talk to the mother?

this is all a bunch of bull****!
i'd like to find a girl my age.
but it's so hard to find a girl that isn't about your car or money at my age.

thanks guys for answering me

and P.S i don't know if the laws are the same here as they are there.
my buddies at work told me that it's ok aslong as she has parentle consent for sex. everything else is fine. and i don't plan to have sex with this girl right now anyways i'm not one to just try and jump down a girls pants.

 

What I did was I told the girl that I want to talk to her father...
If you wish to follow up on this advice make sure you are a "good kid", a kid that is "good" in older peoples eyes, you have to be polite and respectfull, religious as in no sex before marriage type a guy....
and oh if he offers you a beer, it's a test make sure you don't take it...
After you have been allowed to date when the father says 10 PM is the deadline you bring her home 10 till...
let me know how it went.

 

She told her mother she doesn't know you? That's not really the best way to start.

 

no that's what her parents said that they don't know me