Personal problem, part 2

OK, here's the story.

I have a sister, under 16, who spent a week at my place. I trusted her and my friends, and didn't supervise her as closely as I should have. (she lives 3 hours away). Well, she exchanged e-mails with one (former) 26 year old friend in particular, and began IMming him. Then they began calling each other. Well, my other sister found out that they were 'dating' and she was planning on sneaking out and meeting the guy. Of course my other sister told our mother, and she was grounded and forbidden to see the guy or talk to the guy. She was also grounded from the internet and the phone.

Well, she's been finding ways to get online anyway and they're still in communication. I figured out her passwords today (the poor girl used his name) and have found some very disturbing e-mails.

Usually, I think sh gets online at my Dad's house, and he isn't very computer literate. His idea of security is taking the keyboard to bed with him... But I want to have him install that keylogger I was talking about, so I can continue to monitor her communication with the guy if she changes her passwords. I only have to keep them apart 4 more months, because he's joining the navy.

I don't want to get the cops involved, because A) he WAS a friend, and B) not a whole lot they could do anyway, besides getting him into some minor trouble which means keeping him out of the service which means he'll still be around.

So, anyone have any other advice or suggestions, other than the keylogger?

 

Have mom or dad send a letter to the 26 year-old reminding him that there are still statuatory r4pe laws on the books that CAN be used. There's only one reason a 26 year-old goes after a 16 year-old. Tell him to grow up and start acting like a man, because if he keeps this nonsense up, they'll CHARGE him like a man. If his future (Navy or not) means anything to him, leave the kid (yes, kid... minor... jailbait...) alone.

 

Yeah, my mother did send a letter, and I even personally warned him off, but it didn't help. As far as the statutory laws, I checked a bit. Apparently there is very little that can be done until after they've gotten together, which is exactly what I am trying to prevent. I had the same exact initial reaction to the problem...

 

You need to remind your 'friend' that statutory **** is a crime which will send him to prison, where he will be personally introduced to other, more violent forms of ****. You need to look after your sister, your friend is old enough to know better and doesn't need you to protect him. Call the police and give them the information you have, I suspect you might find them more helpful than you'd think. Or you can continue on your present course and find out how difficult it is to collect child support from military personnel.

 

Hi sonicman54

Obviously your sister is at risk due to her age and I can completely understand your feelings and especially the fact that you want to protect her.

Not a lot the Police can do about this type of problem unless any evidence of a wrong doing is available.

Maybe it would be a good idea for you and your family to sit down and openly discuss the situation with your sister.

Another line you could take would be to seek the advice of a Social Worker and to disclose the contents of the communications to him/her.

In the uk the Social Services Department work in conjunction with the Police so, if they saw anything of a disturbing nature then they would automatically pass the information on to the Police and a joint investigation would commence.

 

Thanks for all the advice guys. I plan on talking with the police tomarrow, as well as talking to the guy again, with a bit firmer warning. Meanwhile, I plan on staying up to date by continuing to hack her e-mails and IM's. I still get the feeling that the police will tell me that they can't stop teh two from talking to each other, though. She also turns 16 soon, so that poses a whole new bunch of problems. I still don't want a 26 year old messing with her.

I guess I'll have my parents look into a restraining order, maybe that would give legal recourse to stop them from talking.