Relationships suck

Ok, title may be an over generalisation, but for me, they suck

Just had a very, VERY long and drawn out breakup that lasted several months. Just to make me feel that much better, she is now (most probably) sleeping with my best friend.

Yes, thats the guy I own a company with.

If I hadn't chose to vacate the area, it would have been RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE. HOW *BLEEP BLEEP BLEEP* is that?

Anyone who knows me knows how little I swear normally, but this REALLY takes the *BLEEP* biscuit. I am SO pissed off with this guy, and girl. I loved her from the bottom of my heart, and she did THIS to repay me. FAN*bleeping*TASTIC.

Anyways, I've decided I'm going to give up relationships for a while. I'm going to concentrate on my career and working out what I'm supposed to make of it.

I'm sorry, its been a bad day for me.

 

sorry to hear about that goldy. yeah, one of the best things you can do is just get over it and forget about it.

anyway, you'll be over that real soon... once you threadjack your own thread

so uh, how's the company doing?

 

Haha, you were saying about hijacking my own thread!

Company is fine. As far as I'm concerned I'm pulling my weight plus some more However, a certain other party ISN'T. But there we are. ME:"Ok, since you were so keen to make our CMS, then why not make a start with (random client)'s website?" HIM:"Meehhh, thats work." ME:"So..." HIM:"Mehh... can't be bothered." ME: "So when ARE you going to start on the CMS then..."HIM: "Meh, whenever".

Oh, great dedication I see. This is the man that believes we are a CASH FREE organisation. WTF is that all about? Theres no such thing as a cash free organisation. It just DOESN'T happen. Companies NEED cash too BUY things. We can't depend entirley on clients to buy things needed for US to conduct business. Completley flawed argument to make us get are wages more often. Yah, cause that helps. He just fritters it away at the pub. By that logic, we arn't allowed to spend ANY money on anything but clients jobs. That means, no advertising, no market research, no business cards, no internal infrastructure, NOTHING.

Sorry strogg, caught me in a bad mood.

 

nah, it's good to vent. just so long as it's still sane at some point or other. we all have our bad moments. just remember that for all the bad moments in life, there are good moments to make up for it!

 

well, if she did you like that then you must realize that you didn't want that one anyway. Plenty of fish in the sea (laugh at the pun you punks)
As for the "best" friend. I recommend severing ties as neatly as possible, business and personal. Anyone willing to take your girl from you can't be trusted in a working business relationship either.
"bros before hos" brother.

 

One of the reasons I planned to terminate my business before I got this new job. It's so hard to find people who are motivated.

 

Wow. I'm so sorry, that's horrible. I've had some pretty bad breakups too, so to some extent I know how you feel. Gosh, I hope you feel better.

 

Um... i usually just read alot. You've helped me, and so many other people here....At least you can know that you are totally appreciated by most...

Take care.

 

You know, I'm not bothered by the fact he "stole my girl". I might have even been okay with it at some point. Its the fact he did it in front of my face that pisses me off. Mainly because he always wants to "one up" me because hes a testosterone fueled ape man.

I am DEFINATLEY severing these ties as soon as possible.

In case you look at the post dates: yes, this is the "morning after" and I am still really annoyed.

 

hope that stuff works out better for you than it did for me man.

 

After a few have come and gone, maybe you'll come to realize that women are a commodity to be shared with your buds, but not something to break up a friendship over.

Of course, first loves are the hardest to loose, but chaulk it up as a learning experience and move on.

 

Thanks guys really helps

 

I feel for you man, I'm going through a break-up with my girlfriend as well (I think). Anyway doing it in front of you is just bad form... hope things work out for you in the long run though.

 

Welcome to my world, gave up with em a while ago and feel so much better! Good luck with the working life!

 

drop em both, like bad habits, Goldy.

Both sound like real dead weight.

You can get on down the road to better people.

 

Yep, I'm afraid I'll have to agree with you there. Relationships can be pretty damn sucky at times. As was said, basically ditch the g/f and the so-called 'friend'.

Time for a clean slate, methinks. Often takes a few goes before you find the right partner, both in the girlfriend and business sense of the word.

I've had to that, and at my age, it aint easy, I'll admit.

 

well. . the bright side is your not married(with children)
I myself would rather deal with a breakup like that than the
hellish BS of a bad marriage

if she was your "first love" it may be tough
and the thing with friends. thats friggn crap
if its just a "fling" for them be as mad as you are
but if things actually go well for them and they are together for 40 years
there was more to it
and as tough as it may be, be happy for them

as a rule life sux
and I am sorry to "hear" that your going through it all

 

Of course you could tell your 'friend' about her herpes problem.......

 

Goldfish.....I am really sorry to hear the pain you are going through right now. It hurts and, quite rightly so, you sound very angry. But allow yourself that time to be angry and then work on letting it go. Don't let the anger eat at you any longer than it has too. Negativity has a habit of turning round and biting us on the ass! You have many wonderful qualities...focus on those......you owe it to yourself......you are a special person.

Bigs hugs to ya!

 

So well said that I had to quote it.

Their behaviour may have been in front of you goldfish, but I know that that sort of behaviour would be beneath you. They squandered their own self respect and your respect. Their loss.

 

You know, you can do so much better than her. She sounds like a skank. Also, if your friend was a true friend, he wouldn't do that. If one of my friends slept with my ex-boyfriend, I don't know what I'd do, but it wouldn't be pretty.

 

Sorry about your girlfriend Goldy. It's never fun to lose one, much less to what you thought was your "best friend" (he's NOT, by the way).

A couple of points though.

1. He didn't steal her, unless he kidnapped her at gunpoint, which doesn't seem to be the case. Both parties agreed to the change; as to which one initiated it, you didn't say, and you may not even be sure.

2. Whoever initiated it, he, as your "friend" should have refused to play along AT LEAST until after the two of you agreed (or admitted) it was all over.

3. You mention a protracted breakup stretching over several months. Was she still your girlfriend at all, or had she simply failed to formally verbalize the breakup? She should have stated her position clearly, but human nature being what it is, a LOT of people don't. What you were assuming you had likely wasn't what she thought you had.

4. As others have already stated, dump your partner. Not only because of the girl, although that will make it harder than ever to work together, but it doesn't sound like he works at all. Just from a business sense, he's a lousy partner. You don't agree on what it is you're doing, and he's not doing it anyway. Go it alone until and unless you find somebody that agrees with where you want to go and wants to pull his onw weight to get there.

5. Focusing on career right now is probably a good idea, at least until you get the bad taste out of your mouth. Sooner or later some girl will come along that will get you on your feet again though. But try to remember that boyfriend/girlfriend is not a permanent relationship. It's part of the shopping for a mate process, and you'll try and discard those relationships until you find one that fits BOTH of you properly. While painful, breaking up is not a tragedy; it's part of the process. Tragedy is actually marrying the wrong person.

Hang in there. It will get better.

 

Oh well, too late to edit my post.

Besides, she's probably not a skank, just another kid floundering toward adulthood.

Not all of them make it. THEN you call them skanks.

 

Indeed!

 

I thought this was so well said, it deserved to be quoted again!

I'm sorry, Goldfish. Some people just can't commit, be it in relationship or in business.

 

Yah, well, the thing is, we are sorted out, but she went off within minutes,near SECONDS of it working out. Thats what took me off guard. I'm over it now. Or at least I think so.

I've re-evaluated who I feel that I'm friends with. I've found that a few of the people I felt I was friends with, don't really respect me. In fact, a lot of them don't. Not a lot to ask, but some people are just not mature enough to understand that.

 

goldy like your namesake: there more fish in the sea.......

....when you talk about the friends...they are either for you or against......sometimes with a long time girlfriend, it's your friends, her friends, and the two of ya's.......and if they were her friends first, the backstabing starts........wobbles

 

Smile! Smile! You'll be fine! You will be
I believe in yooooooooooooou!
I owe you many a hug when i next stumble across you! Byebye!