what should i do?

k i need some advice here...

1st of all if you dont know who terry fox is, hes was a really good guy that had his leg amputated because of cancer. he than attempted to run across Canada but sadly, his life was taken at about halfway across.
www.terryfoxrun.org/

Anyways... theres this kid in my geography class. hes started to call me terry fox (he says i look like him i really dont) and said wheres your leg, and is saying im disabled. now everyone has been doing it and it really really sad, and annoying. ( i have a few other choice non-appropriate words). do you think i should beat the snot out of him? im about 50 pounds heavier than him and about a foot taller. i dont think violence is the answer but its really (insert choice word here) that hes making fun of me, and one of the greatest and heroic Canadians ever.

whatya think i should do?

 

Tell him he has bad breath and go somewhere else.

 

lol its a high school dont have much choice..
any other suggestions ?

 

are you missing a leg?
if you are missing a leg are you "disabled"
that choice is yours


and so what if he makes fun of ya? its high school
when he grows up and real life keeps kickn him down
youll be on to bigger and better things. . and laugh

 

Well, If it were me now, I would ignore him.

If it were me then, back in Highschool, I would drop kick him across the campus.

But thats just me

 

You got 5 choices, beat the sh*t out of him, tell the principal, ignore it, take up a martial art, or move to another school. Beating him may give you satisfaction but is not really a good idea. Once the teasing starts to spread to others it is impossible to stop. Telling the principal will only get more teasing. Ignoring it may work. If you don't bite back, hopefully they may move onto someone else. Taking up a martial art and they may get the message not to mess with you. Move to another school and hope the tag does not move with you. Ignore the b*stards, would be my advice, if you can. Bazza

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LOL no im not disabled...
lol no its not the teasing!!! its the fact that hes so ignorant and that hes making fun of one of the greatest Canadians ever

 

Beat the shit out of him... if your parents and teachers ask why and you tell them that. You may not get grounded or in trouble as much as if you just beat their ass for no reason. I would make sure you have the courage to do it even though you will get in trouble somehow, it just matters on how much trouble. and dont hurt him too bad, just hurt him enough so he will run away.

 

probably not the most sound advice
but it is advice none the less. . .lol

 

I'd go with star's advice, just ignore them and they'll stop... eventually.

 

Hi there , and sorry for your situation, Kids can be very cruel,,if anyone stands out be it heavy set,,scrawny skinny,,the nerd with the glasses,,,,and any varient of, will end up getting the brunt of the jokes,,,be them mean,,its not funny,,,and then you have the followers,,,these people are even worst,,because they can't think for themselves,,and realize that this is inapproprate...any how,,peer pressure exists and yes it bites !!! I sugjest like many of the others,,IGNORE and try to learn to round your sholders,,and let this roll off,,if you pay no attention,,it may indeed dissapear..but the school year is new,,and you can't let it carry on too much longer,,so perhaps a visit to a guidence councler , or the vice principal, or someone you feel comfortabe talkin with,,keep in mind the others the TROUBLE MAKERS ,,get wind of your chat,,and or catch a bit of hell for thier actions,,,you will be a bigger target !!!...so its a catch 22,,,act and have the reaction come back at you, or just try your best to ignore,,,round those sholders


and as a last resort,,,,may come to a confrontation with the trouble maker,,,OFF CAMPUS,,,and stratin things out ,,not directly telling you to beat him up,,,LOL,,,but surely let him know where you stand

I daughter in 7th grade is 5'11" looking me DAD strait in the eyes,,and a red head with glasses to boot,,,and ya know what,,she ignores,,,and has teamed up with the other kids that get a hard time,,they call themselves the outcasts LMAO,,,and they say the cool kids,,,eat dirt,,LOL,,ok just my take on the matter....kids can be cruel,,,Glenn

 

accidentally bump in to him during lunch and spill a coke,yogurt, or some other type of hard to clean liquidy substance on him. Say "sorry", laugh, then walk away calmly. Make sure its in front of some girls too. It will embarrass him to death and he will probably leave you alone for a while. If not, he'll lose his mind and attack you. Well, then it's self defense time

 

I had a similar situation many years ago when I was in 7th or 8th grade. Because I have an extremely large nose (since I am ½ Greek, I call it my Grecian Tickler – but that’s a story best left to the ladies. . .), some idiot I didn’t even know took to calling me “Jew Nose.” Now, back then, I was kind of innocent and didn’t recognize the racial/ethnic motivations behind that slur. I kept thinking to myself, “HA HA, the joke’s on you. I’m not Jewish!”

Long story short, I ended up kicking his ass because he would not give it a rest.

PP

 

lol i like Bluesman's idea... im playing the trrombone in music right now (secondary instrument ) so i might just give him an acidental bump plus, trombone cases make very good clubs

cheers and thnks for ur suggestions

 

Must be hard to type and play the 'bone at the same time

Trombones are cool for sitting behind someone playing and repeatedly pitch just a little bit to low and tap them in the back of the head. hehehehe

If it were me in response to "weres ur leg" I'd say "Where's your brain?", and he would then reply "in mi hed, duma$$" to which I would reply "That where my leg will be shortly, too"

 

Take a stand young man, he is asking for it.

Steve

 

man if that was my i would have already put him in a hospital. thats how you take care of things down here in texas. beat the living snot out of him and show him how "disabled" you are when he can't see for a few hours.

eric

 

Thank him for comparing you to someone whom you admire for being strong when a weak-assed punk like him would have just given up. Take it for the compliment it is, if you really look up to Mr. Fox's example. Turn this idiot's weakness, stupidity, against him.

 

What JustPlayin said. Better yet if you can do it with a grin, a laugh, and some humor.

The primary thing that makes group ridicule work is for the target to be obviously hurt and/or offended. If you can laugh it off they'll lose interest in it.

There ARE things worth fighting for, but this ain't it.

 

This one always works. The only reason everyone doesn't do it is that it goes against human nature and our base desires.

Be nice to him. Go out of your way to say hi to him, smile at him, offer to help him out when he looks like he's stuck on a problem.

People tease in order to get a reaction. If you react by beating him up or "bumping" into him, you're just giving him exactly what he wants and motivating him to keep going. If you ignore him, he may stop eventually. But that'll only happen if he gets bored, and it sucks for you until then.

If you're nice to him, and don't even mention to him what a moron he is, he will eventually clue into the fact that you're a damned good guy. Around then he'll feel like the ultimate shoe and will go through torment worse than a bloody nose. Plus, he'll look like a jerk to the people around you.

It's not as fun as punching him, but it's a heck of a lot better in the end.

 

Confrontation is the only resolution that will end things. If you are bigger than him and outweight him then give him a choice; tell him too either shut up and stop calling you names or step outside and challange him to a fight. If he shuts up then you win and he looks like fool and a coward. If he accepts your challange to a fight then fight him (farely, don't cripple him or put him in the hospital). If you beat him in the fight then that kid will be the guy who lost to you in fight and people might start making fun of him for losing.

All the advice like being nice to him or ignoring him and stuff like that looks good on paper but in real life it's not that simple. I say confront him. Confrontation leads to resolution, in my opinion.

Oh, yeah. Next time this kid asks you where your leg is tell him it's getting ready to kick his ass.

 

Terry Fox was a hero and to be called by his name should be a compliment.
When you are called his name say thank you and walk away.
Dont insult his memory by fighting over something so trivial.
This fool that is calling names is a no body and to fight him would just make him think he is important.

 

hey guys thanks i really appreciate your responses... i think one day ill get up the courage ( i really dont like fighting, even though im kinda strong) and confront him. he a real ass.. so id kinda like to see him squirm

cheers

ps. i probably should take it as a complement terry fox was awsome!

 

It's interesting to see that the advice given by the people who I respect most on MG is pretty much the same. That's what I like about you guys, you're consistent (you know who you are)

Oh, and Bluesie, you get points for creativity

 

Fighting is the last thing you want to do. I am 17, in highschool, and have had my problems with ignorant people, and just plain out jerks. I have learned over the years that ignoring them will stop there teasing. Another method i have used is to give attention to the person. When they say somthing just laugh, and dont take it personally. Try to become there friend. You might say im crazy, but some of the kids who used to make fun of me, and tease, are now some of my good friends becuase i was nice to them, and let them be my friends. That is really all a person who lashes out wants. Some attention, friendship, ect.

You also want to think down the road in the future. What will having a suspension for fighting, on your reccord look like to a college or university? True story here. My buddy, really smart, good head on his sholders, got into a fight over with a "bully". He was suspended for 3 days, and was on probation with the police dept. for 6 months. (our school will always call the cops in these situations). When he applied for college, Purdue University turned him down do to that smudge on his reccord. This kid was super smart. 4.0 GPA, honors classes, extracerrecular activities, the whole shaaabang! One mistake costed him a trip to the University he had his hopes set on.



cooked

 

I'm tellin' ya, challanging someone to a fight will end things. It's not like picking a fight. Picking a fight is like bullying someone into fighting when they don't want to. Challanging someone to a fight is like when people would challange each other to a gentlemens dual. It will bring about a resolution faster than any other course of action.

I don't consider it violent even though you do hit each other. But that might not even happen if this kid doesn't accept the fight.

It will show him that you've had it with the name calling and won't take his abuse anymore. Most bullies are cowards and will back down when you give them that sort of choice.

I've been a bully (not proud of that) and I've been picked on. I know what I'm talking about. I know what I'm saying is not the popular way to go, but I'm telling you that it will bring change.

Knowone said you had to fight him on school grounds.

If you want a problem to go away you shouldn't ignore it. I don't know why people say that!?!?!

Remember, I'm not saying that you should seek him out and beat the snot out of him. I'm saying that you should calmly confront him and give him a choice. If he won't stop then ASK him too step outside.

If violence isn't the answer and is considered the wrong thing to do then why do so many people support the so-called war that America is fighting? That war is ultra-violent and considered the right thing to do.

I could ramble on more but I won't.

 

You are right : violence does settle things awfully quickly.



However, very rarley is is the most constructive thing to do. Nor is it a be-all-end-all solution to the problem. You hit someone, they hit you back, you hit them back, they hit you back for hitting them back... and so forth. Even when the fight is done, whos to say that they will respect you any more after that? In many cases, they simply make it worse trying to "get back" at you for winning.

The more constructive thing to do would be to make them respect you unilaterally. i.e. you couldn't "twist" the truth in his favour. Or at least make it hard for them to

 

yeah i might have to side with overcooked here.. i wanna be a computer engineer.. and u cant get into annnyyy old university for that job
anyways.. hes been talking about my mom alot so i think ill just let him go at it for a while untill i snap .. lol this kid is soo ignorant... i hate people like him

 

Violence is the answer to all kinds of stuff. It's in our genes.

 

True. It's not always the RIGHT answer, but it's almost instinctive.

 

Sometimes the case is one where the quicker violence is used the less will be needed. The trick is in knowing, I guess.

 

violence is always the anwser. i was driving my moms jeep (i love this car) and this asshole keyed it in the parking lot at school. well when i heard who it was, i called him up and told him to meet me at a disclosed location. needless to say his friends had to drive him home, when he called me back, he payed to have his damaged fixed. problem solved, he hasn't messed with me since.

eric

 

Or....You can just ask him, If he was born an a**ho**, or does he just work really hard at it.

 

Yeah, knowing when is critical. You call the other out, he shows up... with 5 friends, or with 5 friends with ball bats. Now what?

You call the other out, and find out the hard way that he's had 5 years of karate or judo lessons, but didn't soak up the mental discipline that's taught with the physical training. Or you win, and his folks call the cops and YOU get arrested. Or he shows up with his dad's 9mm and leaves you dead on the street. Or you win, and the rest of the class still calls you names. Are you gonna whoop the entire class? Girls and all?

(shrug) I'm NOT a pacifist. I was in only 2 fights as a kid. In one, the other guy swung first, in the other I was protecting my little sister, who was being heavily picked on by an older boy, and the guy wouldn't listen to reason.

But your social standing in school is determined more by your own attitude and wits than with your fists. Besides which, at some point, somebody obviously bgigger/stronger/faster than you may call you something you don't like. What then? Use your brains. It's good exercise.

 

but make sure that you have a few friends in the crowd in case his brings his friends into the fight.

eric

 

I don't see why not.

Univeristy of Arizona is nothing special, yet I am going to be transferring there for Comp. Engineering.

 

Zulu- I'll say it in blunt terms, pull up your panties and quit your whining. If you want to be a "girlie man" just keep giving yourself girlie nicknames and keep taking advice from girls. I'll even hand you some pruning shears to help finish the job. (btw, my sister goes by zulu)

But then again maybe you are a girl, as I just checked all your previous posts and you make no mention other than you look like Terry Fox. Well if your a girl and acting all butch well then that opens another can-o-worms.

So what's the real problem here? I sense deeper trouble than just a bit of name calling and bullying.

Typically posts with these kind of negative topics, I like to stay away from, but this one is just sad. You asked for advice, got ton's of advice and I'm not hearing a follow through on anything that you may have tried. I hear "I'll wait till it gets worse" from you. Well when it gets worse, it'll be more of the same whining. This kind of drama without resolution is just plain pathetic.

You engage the kind hearted people here on a controversial subject to get attention for yourself, look in the mirror. That's why this guy upsets you so much, it's a mirror image of yourself that you don't like. Think about it, and get back to us.

Change the things you can, accept the things you can't. Knowing the difference--priceless.

 

(eric clapping) wow that was great. well stated and i agree 100%

eric

 

lol w/e i wasnt really looking for advice.. i was seeing what other people wouldve done
btw im a guy, and wtf does zulu have to do with a girl??? i got the name from a murder mystery book i read, the contract killer was named Zulu-1

jesus this is the lounge. its supposed to be off topic. if you dont like it, dont read it

 

What an asinine post.

 

Knowing when to speak up, and when it is better to shut the hell up, that is priceless.

Barney doesn't like it when you are unkind to others. I think you both need to watch the episode where he teaches the kids to treat others with respect and courtesy, and not resort to childish name-calling

 

Doh!

 

Barney's words are truth.

Bow down to the Barney

 

http://home.thezone.net/~barney/Graphics/2.gif

 

i think i have bad gas?? and **** barny is gay...

 

Really now, then what is this?

OK, here it is, get your facts straight, pull up your panties, quit your bad behavior, listen to barney, and have a nice day.

Do you realize that I now consider everything you have said so far to be bunk? I cannot believe anything you have said, as it all may just be a fabrication to jerk us all around--For your amusement. Thank you and welcome to my ignore list.

 

I'm sure that doesn't bother him too much, when you came into this thread to verbally attack him.

 

u noe what? ur sick mag00
why the hell would i make that up?
yeah i noe my post was kinda dumb, but good ur in my ignore list too!
this forum is supposed to be where people talk, not attack each other verbally.
u wanna do that do it on battle net

 

lol y did this have to happen lol i only wanted some adivce :/

 

i'm pretty sure you got it. just a matter of what you do.

eric